Hi Purd (shortened that cause I can't pronounce it!)
Trust me, I am not disciplined!! I can freak out just as fast as the rest of you! Researching is really a way of avoiding while not avoiding.
I felt completely alone, as you do, for years and years and years. A few years ago I decided to start tackling that negative thought pattern (yes, all on my own.) And that is what it is. You are telling yourself that you are not worthy of love and that no one loves you.
We teach people how to treat us, so if you treat yourself poorly and don't love yourself to begin with, you are then teaching others around you to do the same thing.
CHALLENGE YOUR THINKING!!!! Take your brain, telling you these things and do this to it (imaginary of course) :hit-boss: and then tell it what you really are. Worthy of love, lovable, special, and not alone unless you choose to be.
You are NOT ALONE!!! You have all of us!!! I just found this place myself, and have discovered that the possiblities are endless!! Hang in there!!
Bec