I did not join facebook for a very long time, and really had no desire to either, except this woman joined me one day to try and 'help' me, because she thinks it's the best thing since sliced bread. It would take too much time and effort to argue with her, so I let her join me.
I do have a really good bunch of quite intelligent people there at the moment, and try to keep my friend list way down to only people I've known for years who are consistently good and respectful. I've deleted my brother and old friends from my hometown for being abusive or just condescending, and have no problem with that.
Facebook breeds narcissism, and it also gets peoples insecurities going, if no one "likes" their comments (Oh my god, no one likes me...aaaargh.) Hearing what someone had for lunch isn't that thrilling either.
But it can be good for basic contact, if you can't get a hold of someone any other way...and some of my friends are in the States and Canada and India, so it's good to catch up on what is going on for them now and then, but it's also good to just get up off your ass and go and see a friend in person, and not just live on facebook.
I try to post just uplifting images, mainly for my self, but also for anyone else who might need it. Bright flowers and beautiful art works. I've posted some things that were like social suicide for me at the time, as I was interested in the topic but no one else was, and you could have seen the tumbling weeds passing by in the wind. It can suck when no one replies and I get that a bit, but hey...no one has to be interested in what I am interested in, if they aren't.
They all just want surface stuff...but thankfully, I do have friends with some depth to them, who like to post about contraversial stuff, and have actual discussions that can go on for ages. It satisfies my need for deep and meaningfuls. It's just a shame they are on the other side of the world and not here. I much prefer to converse with people in real life.
Try not to take facebook too seriously. As others have said, people only show you what they want you to see about themselves, and it is rarely how it really is...although if you know some genuine people and friends who don't mind being open about where they are at, then it isn't always like that.
I've had friends reach out for support on facebook for being depressed, and I've got friends who use it as a way to raise awareness for important issues going on in the world.
I do have a really good bunch of quite intelligent people there at the moment, and try to keep my friend list way down to only people I've known for years who are consistently good and respectful. I've deleted my brother and old friends from my hometown for being abusive or just condescending, and have no problem with that.
Facebook breeds narcissism, and it also gets peoples insecurities going, if no one "likes" their comments (Oh my god, no one likes me...aaaargh.) Hearing what someone had for lunch isn't that thrilling either.
But it can be good for basic contact, if you can't get a hold of someone any other way...and some of my friends are in the States and Canada and India, so it's good to catch up on what is going on for them now and then, but it's also good to just get up off your ass and go and see a friend in person, and not just live on facebook.
I try to post just uplifting images, mainly for my self, but also for anyone else who might need it. Bright flowers and beautiful art works. I've posted some things that were like social suicide for me at the time, as I was interested in the topic but no one else was, and you could have seen the tumbling weeds passing by in the wind. It can suck when no one replies and I get that a bit, but hey...no one has to be interested in what I am interested in, if they aren't.
They all just want surface stuff...but thankfully, I do have friends with some depth to them, who like to post about contraversial stuff, and have actual discussions that can go on for ages. It satisfies my need for deep and meaningfuls. It's just a shame they are on the other side of the world and not here. I much prefer to converse with people in real life.
Try not to take facebook too seriously. As others have said, people only show you what they want you to see about themselves, and it is rarely how it really is...although if you know some genuine people and friends who don't mind being open about where they are at, then it isn't always like that.
I've had friends reach out for support on facebook for being depressed, and I've got friends who use it as a way to raise awareness for important issues going on in the world.
