Relationship Friend Has Combat Related Ptsd Unsure Where The Relationship Is Going?

[LoyalToAFault]

Hello everyone, I'm new to this site. Have been reading the posts on here for a while to gain some insight, but it's my first time posting.

I met my 'friend' 6 months ago, he is in the Army and has spent most of his adult life in the service, he has been deployed numerous times and as such has recently (6 months ago a few weeks after we met) been diagnosed with PTSD and depression, he sees a psychologist weekly and is on medication.

The thing about this 'relationship' is I'm not sure where it is going or what he wants from it anymore?

The last two months have been especially trying as he no longer communicates to me how he feels about me or 'us'. We were never together in any 'offical' way as we both wanted to take things slow and get to know each other. I have asked him about this a few times and he refuses to talk about it or acknowledge it. He doesnt see me at all, says he is busy with work or etc. (We live 3 hours apart however Im often in his city as i have a lot of friends and family there). And very rarely calls (5 phone calls in 6 months!) he says he hates phone calls and has never been one for them.

I care about him a great deal and despite the limited contact we communicate almost daily through text messages as this seems easiest for him. I guess I'm just looking for some advice, I just want to see him and go out like other couples and talk on the phone, I know these things can be difficult for a suffer, I guess i just need some stratagies or advice about what to do?

Thanks for reading any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated,

LoyalToAFault.

 

[myvetswife]

Welcome! If you have a look in the supporters section you will find a lot of advice.

My hubby hates phones and will only phone if he really has too:confused:

 

[Dallas]

He doesnt see me at all, says he is busy with work or etc.

How can you be in a relationship if he won't see you at all? :O_o:

5 phone calls in 6 months!

How does 5 phone call in 6 months equate into a relationship? :unsure:

communicate almost daily through text messages

Text messages are highly impersonal and do not allow for intimacy. :meh:

A. I think this guy is pulling the wool over your eyes. :facepalm: I would be careful about what he is doing during the other 43,200 minutes/month he is not talking to you on the phone.

B. You are a child of God and deserve to be loved and cherished for all your valuable gifts and treasures He has given you. Do not sell yourself short, or give your heart away to someone who doesn't love you and cherish you the same way God does. :hug:

Tell this guy to take a hike. If he starts calling you three times a day and begs you to be with him, then so be it. :inlove:

Otherwise, do NOT give him the time of day, PTSD or not! I am d-mn serious. You are worth SO much more than what he is giving you! :cautious:

Sincerely,
Dallas.