Sufferer Looking For Any Support I Can Get. At The End Of My Rope

[WillyKat]

Wouldn't it be great if those significant others that think we should "just get over" PTSD could read what we say about them?

I wonder if they could handle being called "cold" or "unsupportive". When I'm in a really bad mood, I sometimes wish I could give them PTSD for a day or so and see how they do.

 

[Shannonstrong]

So in the few minutes of conversation tonight...I'm the burden as usual..I'm probably going to find a therapist to help me but I'm sure once I have a positive mind again. I will not stay with someone that has acted this way. When you love someone, you don't act like they are such a burden over a question. This is so sad because we went through so much and made it this long.

 

[Shannonstrong]

Your wife sounds....Cold. I'm sorry she isn't more supportive.

Yes I agree, that's why I spend so much time alone. Because I really have a hard time looking at some one that I know thinks a certain way and has said the things that have been said. If I just jumped for joy everyday and pretended its all ok then life is easy.

 

[Shannonstrong]

When I'm in a really bad mood, I sometimes wish I could give them PTSD for a day or so and see how they do.

I've told her before..I hope to god she never has to go through PTSD and the next person she is with acts the way she acts about it.

 

[mamachick]

I understand what you are going through with a cold spouse. My husband who is out of the house now, was always very cold. Some people are just incapable of empathy. He can be all upset about having to change offices at work or some other thing, but can not understand trauma. He can help financially, but can not give of himself. Does not want to be bothered. Like you, this is why I like so much time alone. I use to be a people person and very outgoing and social. Now sometimes I dont leave the house or speak to a human in a week, and I like it like this. My dogs lie next to me. If I ever get upset and cry, they are all over me licking the tears. Its really the only time I feel loved is by my dogs. My children have taken on dads personality as well.

Glad you are considering therapy.

 

[Shannonstrong]

brat17,

That's amazing..how similar things are. Yes my wife spends so much time on her job that..its all thats important. She confides in everyone else and goes with their opinions and mine is just that. If others didn't say it, then it doesn't mean nothing. I honestly think part of what I am feeling this last week is alot of anger towards the way she acts towards me and how I'm always 2nd or 3rd on her list of VIP's..lol...Funny thing is, the job that is so important to her doesn't even cover a bill in our house except her personal bills. But when she refuses to even try to care about me when I try to explain it, I just isolate even more. It's like building a wall so I don't feel pain from that situation. There is a tremendous amount of loneliness.

 

[Shannonstrong]

I want to also thank everyone that has posted on my thread. It has made me feel better knowing I'm not the only one. Most of the time I said that a Therapist that has not been through it could not help me. After reading some of the advice from you guys I am gonna pursue Therapy again and really focus on it. If I don't I know something will happen to me. Thank you and please keep communicating because I don't feel so alone now.

Shannon

 

[Shannonstrong]

Some one earlier asked me to share my story of what caused my trauma. Here are two links of a story that was done 2 years after I was falsely accused.

<<part1

<<part2

Hopefully this helps understand why 5 years later Im struggling so bad.

Thank You

PS..My wife crying there and saying how hard it is to watch and see what I go through is the one now 3 yrs later saying "get over it" and that I allow my mind to let this happen.

 

[nursenurse]

Shannon, welcome. I echo the same sentiments about therapy, and would also suggest some therapy together as a couple. You will find out then if she is willing to try, or if she has already checked out of your marriage. She would hopefully gain some insight into what PTSD is. And if she has already checked out, then you both will need help in learning coping and transition skills.

I watched the video, I am so very sorry for all you have been through. Blessings to you. That little girl has a wonderful father.

 

[RussH]

I don't expect my husband to understand my PTSD. He is welcome to ask questions, but it is not the center of our relationship. He is my partner, not my therapist. When I am being honest with myself, I can see where I am asking him to understand stuff I don't understand myself when I cry to him about my unhappiness.


I agree your husband is not you therapist , but as your partner he should learn about PTSD so that he can be a better partner to you.

 

[RussH]

Shanonstrong. I am new to this, and will not offer any advice, because I just don't know enough. However I will tell you this- I am here for you, so you are not alone. I do not have visual / audio flashbacks; mine are emotional, but we are in the same boat, just different sides.

 

[intothelight]

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