I feel my diagnosis is and these issues I have - should not be a problem because people live through horrendous things and cope, i o w. people pull through, so why can't I....
Hold it right there...do not pass go, do not collect $200...I'll not stand by and listen to you badmouthing a friend....YOU!
PTSD is not only a real-live, legitimate medical condition....but a very complicated one which requires professional oversight and diagnosis. And unless you're a professional, you don't really have the grounds even to determine "whether you should just get over it", or not.
Put differently. People don't "just get over cancer", because they should, do they?
Just because trauma hasn't become as accepted and understood by the general public (yet), that doesn't mean that it's it's any less a valid medical diagnosis.
And it is. And your beating yourself up for suffering from it not only doesn't do you or anyone else any good--it just so happens to be wrong, as well.
But the irony is that one of the features of PTSD is depression, which can make you prone to beating yourself up a lot anyway. Not to mention the loss of control of your reactions, and attitudes, which tends to leave anyone feeling guilty, as well.
But these are are no less recognized comorbid conditions commonly associated with PTSD.
When the world, which is still for the largest part ignorant regarding PTSD, is echoing to you such deprecating attitudes, it's easy to feel outnumbered, especially at such a low point...and feel as though the responsible thing to do is take the world's side against yourself.
STOP RIGHT THERE!
Don't do it. You have as much of a legitimate right to your medical condition and it's symptoms as anyone else.
Have you thought of trying to make learning about PTSD a kind of "couple's activity".
I know where you're coming from, you feel alone and abandoned in your condition, and outnumbered by others who don't understand, and don't care to try. But please remember...that doesn't make them right.
I hope you'll continue to post to this forum for support--things can easily begin to look bleak when there's no one else in your corner, and this forum has been a great source of support for me, and in only the last week or so, I've really benefitted a lot.
There's lots of PTSD related info online. How about encouraging your husband to sit down at the computer with you, and begin seeing where you fit into the diagnosis, and identify the symptoms described, as they appear for you.
Maybe put it in terms of your husband "helping you to get a grip on it"...men like to hear things like that, right?
You're not alone. And you have a right to feel the way you do and have the issue you do. Please be well and know that there are others here who understand and care!
best wishes
