What Made You Angry Today?

[ms spock]

@Solara if someone says they will write to you the next day and you delete your account before that day is over, then no they can't write back to you.

 

[ms spock]

I had no need for messages from people who never wrote me back.

I don't know if you realise we live in different timezones. You withdrew from our conversation at 4pm Tuesday my time. So there was about 8 hours I could have replied if you hadn't closed your account.

I left at 6am in the morning. I was late back from Sydney that day I got home late.

Maybe try being a little bit more flexible with people. Also give people a reasonable chance to reply back to you within the day they said they would write to you.

You are setting yourself up for failure and for potential loneliness if you can't be reasonable, like not closing your account within the time frame of someone said they would reply to you.

 

[Britt.f7]

A clerk was making me a cherry coke, and wanted to find out if there was too much cherry in there when a man interrupted and basically put his soup in her face telling her to ring it up, while I'm making up my mind, before it gets cold. How rude. I told her it was okay, the soda was fine.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I'm still here, so no I didn't delete my account. I said I deleted all the messages because I was getting notifications that people couldn't write me because my inbox is full. Maybe premium members don't have this limitation?

You're mad because your message was deleted from my inbox? Why is this even an issue? I didn't know that it was the death of things once the message chain was broken.

Sorry if you interpret "deleting 10 messages where I got no response" as setting myself up for loneliness. Some were over a year old. How long was I supposed to wait on those people? I deleted everything, not thinking that anyone would notice.

I apologize. I won't bother you again.

 

[ms spock]

Maybe premium members don't have this limitation?

Oh no they don't. But you could have included that information in your other posts so I could understand what is going on.

You're mad because your message was deleted from my inbox? Why is this even an issue? I didn't know that it was the death of things once the message chain was broken.

Being patronising to me about being upset that you cut me off, means I less likely to listen to what you have to say.

It is an issue because we were chatting and you cut me off with no explanation.

How was I to sort it out when you have removed the option to send you a message?

You cut me off mid conversation. I got a message at my end saying you left the conversation 4pm my time on the day I said I would reply. I interpreted that in a negative light.

Some of your other posts indicated anger at people for being unreliable. I tried leaving messages in a couple of threads and you didn't respond. So in one sense my communication and understanding were poor. I apologise I jumped to a conclusion. But you didn't let me know what was going on.

Sorry if you interpret "deleting 10 messages where I got no response" as setting myself up for loneliness. Some were over a year old. How long was I supposed to wait on those people? I deleted everything, not thinking that anyone would notice.

If a message is a year old then it is quite reasonable to delete it

But my message wasn't a year old. It wasn't past the 24 hours that I said I was going to reply. So I assumed the worst when you left the conversation. Can you see how that would look to me? It would have helped if you had messaged me and let me know what was going on.

Your posts come across as being pretty negative about and towards people and perhaps adding some tact and diplomacy to your communication would assist in people understanding what you mean. You are obviously intelligent, but being dismissive of people means you come across as you want to pick fights with people. It also comes across as you being condescending, rude and unkind. You have some good things to say but it gets lost in your style of communication.

You style of communication comes across as if you are attacking people left, right and centre - which is how you are coming across on the forum and that is setting yourself up for loneliness. Because if you continue like that you will get banned. The moderators can't allow another member to treat people like that.

If you could just be a tad more flexible with people you could get a lot more out of the forum and contribute significantly in a positive manner.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

You assume that everyone gets notifications. I get none. It is triggering to me to see an alert so I get no alerts. My account is set up this way. "@Solara" never alerts me to anything. I go back to the threads I'm interested in so I will reply when I happen to stumble upon a "@" that is directed at me. That is what happened here.

Peace

 

[ms spock]

It is triggering to me to see an alert so I get no alerts. My account is set up this way. "@Solara" never alerts me to anything.

I did assume you got alerts. I am in error there.

I appreciate you communicating with me and letting me know what is going on.

This interaction has also shown me that I need to improve my communication skills as well. I need to be mindful of jumping to conclusions.

 

[Nicolette]

But my message wasn't a year old.

@Ms Spock would you please finalise your edits to the above post as I keep fixing the quoting and indentation, you edit it and it reverts back. Thank you :)

 

[ms spock]

@Ms Spock would you please finalise your edits to the above post as I keep fixing the quoting and indentation, you edit it and it reverts back. Thank you :)

My apologies Nicolette - I was beginning to think gremlins were in the system.

I am finished and thanks for your patience with me.

Regards,
ms spock

 

[Deleted member 1860]

People who pity me make me angry. Other people with PTSD who pity me.....well, let's just say that's the worst :(

 

[Deleted member 1860]

@Ms Spock,
Please stop threatening to get me banned. I find it highly inappropriate given that there are mods here 24/7 and they can message me if I say something outside the rules.

 

[Nicolette]

Ladies, let's all be grown up here and stop this nonsense. Really, I am asking you to stop it. No one is looking at banning either of you unless you don't take the bickering off the public area and that means both of you. Enough thank you.