Did This Psychologist Cross The Line?

[Rochelle]

Thanks for the replies everyone, I knew something was just not right with this assessment. Come to think of it, I've had the exact same assessment before, and it was the complete opposite, I wasn't asked to go into detail about anything. I was asked the standard questions and referred for CBT straight away.

@Lucycat I don't think I have an option, I'm going through the NHS (if I had the money, I'd go private) so I'm assuming its a "get what you're given" type of thing, or go back on the waiting list... And I've been waiting from 31st Dec 13, just for this "assessment", and will be back on the waiting list for another month. The way this woman was talking she said it would be unlikely I would be seeing her for actual therapy, hopefully she's right about that.
I started EDMR with my last therapist (she was really great btw, but to have more sessions I had to go back through the system) but there wasn't enough sessions to actually go deep into it (we were in the preparing stage, creating a happy place etc.) which is why she referred me last year to continue with EDMR and hopefully get more than 6 sessions.

@Ayesha exactly, I was defo in denial of 'warning signs', it didn't even cross my mind that he even could or would rape someone.

@Hashi I still think therapy would be great, but like you said with the right person. I don't know how else to get therapy other than through GP referrals or paying privately which I can't do atm.

@bluebird sorry to hear, I always thought my abuse wasn't severe enough, which is why I never recognised it for what it really was.

@WillyKat lmao! I needed a laugh after all this stress this woman has caused.

@Definitely..maybe sorry to hear. I also grew up thinking this type of behaviour was normal - I said this to the psychologist, she said that I thought it was "normal" because I probably enjoyed this kind of contact and I was also experimenting...!? I dunno where her logic is coming from!

@Meadowsweet I don't know if she's trained or not, she mentioned a few times that she is a psychologist... But from the things she said, I'm doubting that! She even said "at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what I think" after offering her opinions on things she clearly knows nothing about, not to mention I never asked for her opinion!
And yes I'm in the UK, I will look into contacting MIND, thanks.

Again thanks everyone, just having the support has made me feel better about the situation :)

 

[Pencil]

Again thanks for any replies

Are you paying her for this crap?

 

[Deleted member 12723]

That therapist is a really bad therapist. I had one like that and his words really messed with my head. He even called me angrily when I quit him to go somewhere else.

I am so sad this happened to you. I know how bad it feels.

I am so glad you do not have to see this one again. Take good care of you.

 

[Pencil]

I am so glad you do not have to see this one again

And don't pay her! Or ask for a refund!

 

[xena21]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that horrible therapist! I've had some bad ones too. SHe sounds miserable and shouldn't be practicing. Please don't let this stop you from seeing other therapists. I know how it works. I stopped trusting all therapists, and it didn't help me at all. There are some good ones out there. You just have to keep looking.

 

[Rochelle]

@Pencil luckily, I'm not paying for this :)

 

[a3a2]

I couldn't even read all of your first post. That psych is an ass and should be reported. Do NOT under any circumstances go back to this psychotic psych!!!

 

[J_trustno1]

First of all, get rid of that ignorant BITCH!!!! She didn't want to listen to you and she was only throwing her opinions on you. Just get rid of her!! She is toxic to your emotional being and can lead to more health issues.

The reason why you considered this option was because you had issues that you wanted to deal with and you needed help. But sadly, she failed to understand you. I had a similar experience with a male GP of my own kind who accused me of sleeping around yet I have never had a boyfriend and I don't even allow men near me because I fear them due to my childhood sexual abuse. He even labelled me narcissist, jealous when I told him that I feel inferior next to people who are better than me. He also asked me why I hate my abusers! I can see the exact same pattern from your post. I went into further depression because of his nasty comments and that sleeping around was the deal breaker for me, because how dare that son of a bitch to question my dignity! I ended up crying for 3 days continuously and lost my sleep for weeks because of his comments. I didn't see a GP for 3 months and it took me 3 months to find another GP who is a female and of a different race than mine.

The reason why I told you this is because this person is not helping you get anywhere but is bringing you down. You are better off without her and seriously she is an ignorant bitch!! (btw sorry for the language)

Take care and be safe :)

 

[Lucycat]

First of all, get rid of that ignorant BITCH!!!!

I think you are missing the point that this person is provided by the NHS. You do not get to pick and choose. She is allocated. If you refuse treatment with one person it does not automatically mean there is an alternative. It might be take-it-or-leave-it.

Of course this 'psychologist' is completely out of order and in my opinion, needs reporting.

However if she is assessing in order to allocate @Rochelle to an appropriate therapist then maybe they will not have to cross paths again.

 

[J_trustno1]

@Lucycat : Hmm, I didn't know where she lives. I get to pick and choose here so that is why I thought she also had a choice. Not having choices as a child and being through childhood abuse is more than enough let alone a psychologist or a GP throwing his or her shit on top of that.

 

[digger]

She was completely out of order, and if you feel up to it, I would seriously consider reporting her. She's clearly in the wrong job.

I'm glad you said yes to the referral though. If this is the process I am thinking it is, then it is unlikely further treatment will be with her.

 

[Echo]

Even if this psychologist is available to you, @Rochelle on the NHS, it is possible to go back to your GP and ask to be transferred to another one. I understand, however, that is takes strength you may not have to report her.

What must come first is your own well-being. I am struggling desperately to work but I am doing so in order to pay for my therapist privately. It is all I do pay for on top of basic requirements: bills, rent, etc. My therapist is streets ahead of what is available to me on the NHS (or rather turns out not to be), and I am so glad I have made this choice.

My therapist costs me £45 a week. I thought I couldn't afford it, but now I see I have to do so. It is either that or not survive really. But the provision of service and expertise from her will get me healed so much faster than the very poor attitude I was met with from the GP onwards, through Mental Health and then the Psychology Services.

I am now working with a very well-qualified trauma therapist who has a track record of helping people actually recover. I still believe in the NHS overall, but their lack of provision in most parts of the country for people with PTSD is a national scandal.