I once had someone say to me, "It is sad that you don't have God's guidance. I don't know how you can live everyday without the faith and reassurance that one day you will be in the eternal paradise of the after-life. If I didn't have that faith, I wouldn't be able to make it through the day." Um, really? To me, THAT is sad.
Why is what is real, tangible, and right now, not enough? I do the right thing, am a kind and compassionate person, help others, am kind to animals, etc. - because I'm a good person, not because I fear an invisible God who might banish me to 'hell,' not because one day, after I die, I MIGHT get to spend eternity in some unknown paradise.
Personally, I feel perfectly competent to decide for myself what is right and what is wrong, who and what I find acceptable, and what I do not. I do not feel the need for a predetermined definition of what to believe, accept, and value.
To those who are believers - are you honestly ok with, and accepting of the notion that rapists and murderers, pedophiles and serial killers, can spend their lives committing evil, then just before they die can ask for forgiveness and proclaim their faith, then be invited to spend eternity in the same heaven that you hope to get to? As
@Muzikluvr said, isn't that sort of getting the best of both worlds? And then me, who lives an honest, loving, compassionate life, a public servant, contributing to the betterment of society - gets sent to hell for not 'believing'?
I believe this universe is bigger and more complex than ANY of us will ever know or have the capacity to understand. Sure, there are coincidences, intuitions, many things we can't explain. But I'm ok with not knowing, with not having all the answers. I think many people look to god and religion to explain the unexplainable, to find meaning where there may not be any. To find comfort and comradery. And that's fine! If that is what one needs and where they feel most comfortable, then go for it! What I will not tolerate is the unkindness, contempt, the non acceptance of others, ' in the name of god.'
I have many friends who are regular churchgoers and wholehearted 'believers', yet we are able to have close and healthy, mutually respectable relationships. I do not judge, demean, or insult 'believers'. All I ask is that you have/show the same respect for me and my beliefs.