Repeating Yourself In A Conversation

[Ellabella44]

My daughter and today Tan pointed out to me that im saying things over and over but in different words.... anyone have an idea how to realize this is happening or ways to stop? I really need to work on this so i can carry on a conversation with someone.

 

[digger]

I do this a lot. I'm not sure what the cause or solution is, but you're not alone in it. I think it's probably a combination of things - memory issues, anxiety, finding it hard to get things clear in my head/confusion, distraction/concentration problems...

I kind of work on the theory though that, if it's such a problem for the person I'm talking to, then they can go talk to someone else!

I find it frustrating when I catch myself doing it, and I think I probably do it more than I realise, but I have enough problems talking as it, having someone calling me out on it, or picking at it, wouldn't be helpful. It would just make me even more hesitant to talk. (As it does when I pick up on it myself)

How do you feel when your daughter picks you up on it? What age is she?

 

[Nam]

Maybe you felt misunderstood or you didn't get the response you expected?

I think I do this a lot. Sometimes I ask the exact same question because I didn't listen to the answer (too busy trying to formulate my words into something else that makes sense).

This might not be the case here, but I have to comprehend in silence. If there is too much noise around me or in my head, it's hard for me to process.

 

[garden]

I used to do this a lot, and it was pointed out to me by my boyfriend (it was before marriage). I was in therapy at the time, and I talked about it. I found that I was so accustomed to not being heard that I had developed a habit of repeating myself profusely to whoever I was talking to. It was like a reflex. Growing up I was ignored, and only spoken to out of necessity. I did not have a voice. When I did speak, I knew that no one was really listening.

I still do this sometimes, and it's always, always, always when I'm in the middle of a surge in ptsd symptoms. Otherwise I have been able to change this habit. When the symptoms are raging, I regress to this habit again...

 

[Neverthesame]

I am certain I do this. I tend to speak very quietly, always have. I am used to repeating myself over and over, as the first answer I usually get to anything I ask is, huh?

I have noticed though, that when I am not feeling stable, I will mumble to myself about whatever unpleasant thought is repeating in my head. Probably looks a little crazy. Ha, oh well.

 

[Ellabella44]

my daughter is 15, well will be 16 soon. im ok when she points it out, at first, then my anxiety goes up because I repeated myself and I dont want to. I used to be able to before the onset of the full symptoms over a year ago. Now I have trouble stopping. I want to be able to not do this, to make eye contact as well more often as well. I guess more work is needed to just be calm first. Thank you all it helps to know im not the only one who has trouble with this. :)

Hmm alot to think about above.. pretty much yes to all of it.... trying to figure out what im saying, anxiety, forgetting if i got a response.

Niether parent was a good attachment figure for me. I could never say how I felt when they had a fight where he would hit her. I was slapped in the mouth for verbally defending myself to her when she thought i had done something bad. so the not being heard piece makes sense to me as well. I never talked about how things were truthfully growing up durring their marriage to anyone but my current t. for several reasons.

I kind of hate that im dealing with all of this right now, several years later.

Then again it seems to be the right time as well since im in a safe home..... my own. With my own family im trying to attach securely to.

 

[digger]

For me, it's one of those things that I'm hoping will improve itself, without actually addressing it directly, as I work on other things in therapy. Work on some of the bigger stuff and hope some of the smaller stuff sorts itself out as a result.

If it doesn't, then I'll deal with it directly then, but at the moment it's not my priority. I think focusing on it too much is likely just make me more anxious about it.

 

[Ellabella44]

sigh maybe im trying too hard to be "normal" right now.... i want to get rid of my anxious behaviors, but i have alot of work to do on the anxiety myself.

 

[illusionist]

I can only back up what digger has said. It is one of the things I naturally stopped doing once the bigger things had been dealt with.

 

[kare]

I repeat myself in conversation, I will say the same thing over and over and over again. Some of my friends dropped me, no one told me about it, my doctor just brought it to my attention. I have anxiety, ocd and insomnia.
I think this may be caused by taking Ambien.??

 

[Reeree]

My daughter and today Tan pointed out to me that im saying things over and over but in different wor...

My husband does it every day
I have to leave Mr sometimes
Same talk and it gets old