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animal rescue might have been the most healing of my volunteer gigs in my own recovery. supporting their healing needs helped me understand my own needs more than all my shrink parade put together. it helped me understand my anger toward my own abusers, to boot.

hello sadie. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. this sounds like my own m.o. for most of the 45 years i have been married. some of my wanderings kept me away for years. why my hub-a-lub has put up with it is a mystery to most, but i cannot speak the...

my case is extreme. my first pregnancy was a nightmare of triggers and flashbacks i was utterly unprepared for. i was single and working the music scene, so i lost my entire social circle for the crime of committing pregnancy. the nightmares were unrelenting. the baby was born two months early...

personally, i take the focus off the topic of my anxiety attack and put the focus on the fact that i am experiencing an anxiety attack and ply therapy tools for generalized anxiety attacks. if the topic turns out to have specific substance. i'll deal with it far more efficiently after i am no...

hello jay. welcome to the forum. for my recovery nickle, it is the fact that it's never really over is what makes it ptsd. the cycles just keep on repeating until ya figure out how to break them and try something new. hope you find some new tricks here. welcome aboard.

hello zytroxide. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. i started my recovery from child sex trafficking in 1972, decades before any of the current dx'es were available. i didn't have allot of options outside of addressing individual symptoms more than...

i compulsively psychoanalyze other people, most especially family members. with hub-a-lub, i feel like my future depends on enforcing my expert analysis and treatment. the results are approximately equal to when hubby starts a campaign to **fix** me. little by little, i am coming to believe i'm...

hello lily. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here but glad you are here. a sense of community has been a critical piece of my own recovery. i hope it helps you, too. welcome aboard.

i started out the opposite. both creative writing and therapy journaling were nearly impossible until i learned to just let 'er rip. write first, edit later.

i took the estrangement approach with my criminally dysfunctional birth family. i still feel it is the best route for me, but i am dealing with criminal levels of dysfunction. no, mother, i don't want to go to prison with you. however diseased the limb i was forced to cut off, my body and being...

talk of percentages is an arithmomania trigger for me --no, arithmomania is not a mathematic gift. it is an OCD disorder-- but i translate the spirit of your question as, "little thing" in place of the dangerous-for-me statistical question. i'm a huge believer in itsy bitsy baby steps. the...

i will second @Friday 's assertion with the addendum that between religious, political and psych babble, the word, "deserve" has been distorted beyond functional value. what the deuce does that mean, anyway? i'd rather decipher the codes surrounding the word, "normal."

i can never predict my own triggers. most of them seem to be random reminders of bygone trauma.

i don't know that my symptoms have lessened any, but my skill in managing those symptoms has increased mightily. shifting the focus to symptom management has removed the surprise/shame factor, saving me tons of time/energy on the agony drama. ho hum. . . there i go again. . . ply therapy tools...

hello bruce. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. my recovery from child sex trafficking has been long and winding with more techniques, tools and dx'es than i care to count, but i quite solidly believe this simple statement covers the most essential...

dunno. . . seems to this globe trotter that family relationships are what they are, no matter the distance between us. good, bad, mediocre, or only a whisper in my life, those relationships are always with me, even after death. it's okay to miss your little brother.

ditto, past tense. somewhere along the way i realized i was more true to myself when i was discouraged to the point of not giving a flying obscenity and tweaked the realization to where i could be true to myself on the good days, as well. stay true to you.

hello madi. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. not so much to take in here. you have, indeed, discovered a place where people can relate. still, those novellas are encouraged for a goodly number of reasons, from venting to sorting. share freely. share...

i became the family whistle blower fairly early on. i quickly discovered that the precious few who cared didn't have any great alternatives or quick fixes to offer. worry about people finding out? i am not convinced it a secret worth draining myself in order to keep. i'm quite solidly convinced...

ahhhhhh. . . gender typing. . . ain't it grand? half of the world is this. the other half is that. i am often tempted to admire the simplicity of the dualism, but? ? ? good luck getting half of the world's population to fit a particular mold. in my case, that would be because the chronically...

in stressful environments, venting physical stresses is a biggie in my sleep hygiene. stretches, running in place, etc., are my go-to channels for shared spaces where drama is not appropriate. steadying support while you work it through, beaneeboo. hope healing happens here.

yowza! ! ! "a traumatizing week" sounds like a gross understatement! ! ! words are not enough to express the depths and widths of what you are going through. steadying support while you work through the tidal waves. keep posting. it is allot to sort.

i decided this was true for me in the late 60's when i started high school. i had "friends with bennies" but i always paid my own way when i went out with friends of whatever gender. i found my husband in the late 70's over the course of building a life i wanted. we were friends moving in the...

hello bee. welcome to the forum. i am a beekeeper, so i will forewarn of the inevitable bee puns. i started my recovery from child sex trafficking in the early 70's, long before most of the current treatments had earned their acronyms. professional help has been a critical part of my recovery...

ditto, but growing up sharing a bed with two sisters to share my dreams with every morning gave me unusually vivid dream recall. in my engineering graphics career, a talent that didn't quite fit on my resume but earned me quite a few word-of-mouth referrals is what science calls, "dream...