7+ Year Relationship Looks Over

[Ustabe]

She told me last night that she pretty much couldn't deal with me anymore. Has realized that she doesn't want to spend the rest of her life with me. She loves the man I was when we met, but he's gone.

I'm devasted.

 

[rightkindofme]

I live in fear of this. I am so very sorry.

 

[kacee129]

I'm wondering - Do you have PTSD and that is why she can't deal with you anymore? Are you receiving any type of treatment?

The reason for my questions is my boyfriend and I are living in different states. We were together but because of his untreated PTSD he moved out. He keeps saying he wants to come home and I've told him over and over that before that can happen he has to at least show me that he is willing to get treatment. It's not happening. Not more than 10 minutes ago I got a text that he is going to give up on coming home. There was more but that is the jist of it. I answered back, again, that he knows what he as to do to be able to come home but that it is his choice and it appears he has made it. So he responded that he has had this problem since Vietnam an that he is too proud or stupid to ask for help.. He said he knows he will go one or two times then stop. Then he said it is best if he lives with this inside him and not hurt me. I have mixed feelings about that. My first reaction is "miss me with the pity party". My second reaction is he has already hurt me. I want to just respond with "all right, then we are over...over means no contact, no nothing"

I just don't know what to say. I don't want to be the one that forces him to get treatment.