annette1957
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My adult daughter has been diagnosed with CPTSD and is currently having EDMR therapy. After each session she feels overwhelmed and alone. She says she needs me to support her but I'm at a loss to know what to do. She lives alone and I don't live nearby. If I ring after a therapy session she says
" I just shouldn't be going through these things on my own"
"I'm not feeling supported"
" I need to feel held"
I listen and empathise but I don't know what else I can do. She says she has told me what she needs but I just don't get it.
I say things like
"I hear what you say, It is really hard and you are trying your best" and she tells me "It's not about being heard its about being supported".
Our phone conversations have long pauses because I can't think of the right response and we just keep going round in circles so I feel I've said everything I can. Then she says 'I don't know why we are on the phone right now' so I say 'If I'm not helping I'll say goodbye' but she doesn't say goodbye so I feel I can't hang up as she is still there waiting for the support she needs.
Can anyone offer any advice please?
" I just shouldn't be going through these things on my own"
"I'm not feeling supported"
" I need to feel held"
I listen and empathise but I don't know what else I can do. She says she has told me what she needs but I just don't get it.
I say things like
"I hear what you say, It is really hard and you are trying your best" and she tells me "It's not about being heard its about being supported".
Our phone conversations have long pauses because I can't think of the right response and we just keep going round in circles so I feel I've said everything I can. Then she says 'I don't know why we are on the phone right now' so I say 'If I'm not helping I'll say goodbye' but she doesn't say goodbye so I feel I can't hang up as she is still there waiting for the support she needs.
Can anyone offer any advice please?