Relationship Advice needed please, my girlfriend has PTSD.

[Dave ZInger]

Hi, Im Dave. I've, been with my Beautiful GF for about 18m but struggling massively with her PTSD.

 

[Deanna]

Hi, Im Dave. I've, been with my Beautiful GF for about 18m but struggling massively with her PTSD.

What is she doing?

 

[Dave ZInger]

She is currently having an attack and has shut me out Completely. Everything was great until A few months ago but she has recently been distant. I get jealous because she has so many other male friends and listens to their problems but won't engage with me if I explain this to her the. Just shuts me out. The poor girl has a horrible past, raped at 14, a history of drug and alcohol abuse, worked in a massage parlour and even been To prison, but used to tell me that I am the man she always, dreamt of meeting. My question really is, is it normal for a sufferer to just shut out their partner? I'm trying to give her the space she, says, she needs but she wont even reply to a simple "goodnight" after no contact at all that day. It's been a week now since I've seen Her when we used to be together at least 4 times a week. I gave asked her if she misses, me and her reply was "no, I miss me" any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.

 

[Dave ZInger]

What is she doing?

Could you offer any advice please Deanna.?

 

[Deanna]

Sit down with her and tell her that you need a relationship that is exclusive to just you. Explain that you get jealous when she is with other guys... And that's not going to work for you. Explain that you can't protect her when she's around other males.

Could you offer any advice please Deanna.?

She sounds a little immature. This could be due to her home life when she was young. She wasn't close to her mother or had some problems. She feels comfortable talking to males and not females. This is immaturity. How old is she?

 

[Dave ZInger]

Sit down with her and tell her that you need a relationship that is exclusive to just you. Explain that you get jealous when she is with other guys... And that's not going to work for you. Explain that you can't protect her when she's around other males.

I've tried this but then she accuses me of not trusting her when I honestly do. My question is is it normal to shut out just your partner? I don't think that she would ignore anyone else messaging or ringing her etc, or am I wrong to think that?

 

[Dave ZInger]

She sounds a little immature. This could be due to her home life when she was young. She wasn't close to her mother or had some problems. She feels comfortable talking to males and not females. This is immaturity. How old is she?

She actually has lots of friends both male and female but yes you're right, she wasn't close to her mum and dad was always working away..

 

[Deanna]

I've tried this but then she accuses me of not trusting her when I honestly do. My question is is it normal to shut out just your partner? I don't think that she would ignore anyone else messaging or ringing her etc, or am I wrong to think that?

Its not right for her to be talking to a bunch of males. Explain that you cannot protect her when she does that abd its driving y ou crazy not knowing where she is.

 

[Dave ZInger]

She confides in both sexes and gaits of close friends, she is 42..

 

[Deanna]

It's easier to look at other people's problems and not have to deal with your own. That's workalholism and how she runs away. You're more of the secluded type.. No?

 

[Dave ZInger]

Its not right for her to be talking to a bunch of males. Explain that you cannot protect her when she does that abd its driving y ou crazy not knowing where she is.

She is a recovering alcoholic and has lots of friends from these support groups, she volunteers too and tries hard to better herself but I just feel so left out, if I say anything I'm accused of being selfish and not Considering her. She struggles massively with her previous life I. The sex industry too so if I mention men to her she flips her lid... I'm so lost.

 

[Dave ZInger]

It's easier to look at other people's problems and not have to deal with your own. That's workalholism and how she runs away. You're more of the secluded type.. No?

I'm sorry I don't understand what you mean by secluded?