Am I Being To Sensitive

[StarChild]

they weren't sorry for the tough love

It's worth noting that the word love is in there.

I'd like to participate in this thread, but I don't understand what "tough love" does mean? - English is my second language and I'm not familiar with all idioms... I googled it and there were two examples about politics and / or government and a christian one, which confuses me even more... It simply makes no sense to me! - Could someone explain it to me, please? Your help would be very much appreciated. Thank you in advance.

 

[TimeToHeal]

@SweetLullaby, in this case it refers to the person being rather upfront and blunt, possibly harsh, with their opinion and words, being "brutally honest," if you will (my apologies if that phrase is also unfamiliar to you!). But doing so out of love and concern for the other person, in the hopes that what they feel to be the hard truth will actually be of some help and will allow that person to see things in a different perspective.

That's about the best I can do - I hope it helps! :)

 

[Lucycat]

Yes that is as close to what she said as I can get without a direct quote. I asked down on the help desk if I could copy and paste a snippet of what she said, but they understandably said no.

So from this , my understanding that this was not a conversation in the true sense of the word, but an email or text communication. Sadly this - like on this forum - is fraught with misunderstandings and misinterpretations because of the lack of body language and cues from voice tone etc.

I am sorry that you have lost a 12 year friendship as a result. Is there anyway back?

I too, have recently been criticised for being overly sensitive, but after discussion with my T he does not think I am :) of course my husband disagrees :( - but actually so what? I have to take what helps me and leave the rest.

I do hope that you can sort your differences with your friend.

 

[TryinToHeal]

It's about getting the right help.

Deep in your heart you know where that help is -- even if it's the last place you want to go.

Hint: it has nothing to do with psychiatry.

 

[Fadeaway]

@TryinToHeal I am sorry, I do not follow.