Anyone Here That Can Comment On Anger Management?

[Llith]

I am currently taking some time away from my long term counselor and seeing someone about anger manageme...

Anger management can be used to cope with totally justifiable anger. Honestly its very rarely that we are angry without ANY justifiable reason, there is normally something, whether past or present.

I don't know how your sessions are going, but I found as a kid focusing on why I was getting angry, how I reacted and then alternative reactions as well as ways to cope with the anger worked well. I personally grew up around one very depressed and angry parent who had to go to anger management, so sent me as well. Couldn't admit it may have been just him who was freaking mental. *grumbles*.

ANYHOW it did help cope with irritants and my reactions to them. I think as long as large triggers are around its not going to just go away, but you can learn to channel it into other things, and maybe one day you will decide its not worth living a half life for 'all you have worked for', but thats a big step, and may not even be true.

Good luck! Angers never a nice thing to be dealing with, for you or anyone else.

 

[user27357]

thanks all. I have decided that unless my counselor can sell me on his ability to help me feel less anger or at least channel anger away from physical symptoms and into som ekind of cognitive package I can deal with in better ways than dieing of a stroke or heart attack, I am done with this approach. If his only goal is helping me have friends and trusting the untrustable, he will be selling his services to someone else soon.

I am going to physical therapy tomorrow to find out if they can help me with a headache that is going on 3 weeks old. I wonder what they will think when they ask me if I have any physical injuries and I have to tell them that all of my physical pain is probably stress related? Exercise is good, but frankly , unless it is actually doing something that involves mental stimulation too, like playing a sport or building something, my time spent exercising quickly becomes boring and then I start spiraling down into the stressful regions of thought that cause the stress. I feel like I am just breaking even and would be better off reading a book or watching a movie or even enjoying a good meal than I am on a stairmaster.

It is summer time soon and I do believe that there is nothing half as much worth doing as messing about in small boats (forgive the misquote) and maybe I should concentrate on getting out on some local rivers and rowing until i am thinking about rowing and going places and not frustration and memories of water rescues gone bad in my days as a first responder. I don't know.....but I am willing to try and what can it hurt?

Probably done with this thread, unless someone else has some advice about anger management for the non- unmanaged.

Or this therapist has found a way he can help me with MY goals.

 

[Gadgie]

I wish I could control my anger, it just flares up at the slightest provocation! It's just as well that I'm able to calm down quickly.

Thing is, I never used to be like that, it used to take quite a lot to "set me off" I don't really know when this change happened to me, it seems like another life time ago now?