Avoiding certain areas

[Meglynn1990]

Hi,
I just recently joined this forum. One of the main reasons was because in my personal life I feel like no one truly understands why I act in certain ways. I wanted to ask this thread's opinion whether I am over reacting or not. We have been trying to move in to an apartment after our current one is not working out so well and have not had any luck. We applied at a friend's apartment building and got denied but the landlord said we could move in for a short term lease at the one she owns privately. This is great but it is in a really bad part of town, there is not a lot of parking that I can find close to the place, and as such I am scared of getting to the apartment by myself. When I let my friend know that I was stressed because I did not have a lot of options, she said I should be grateful people are showing me generosity like this landlord. I feel so lost and alone. I know this is the best option however I am scared to death of the area and just feel like there is no real safe space. I am worried this is just the PTSD and I am over reacting. Has anyone else avoided areas like this because of PTSD, or have similar experiences?

 

[Friday]

Personally, I'd be suspicious that Manager/Landlord is deliberately turning away qualified residents in order to populate her other property.

If it were a great building in a part of town I loved? Then, sure, I'd be grateful for the opportunity... Regardless of the self serving interests of the landlord. If not? Pfft. I would feel in noooooo way obligated (much less grateful??? :O_o: )

 

[EveHarrington]

Uhm no.

Your mind is supposed to stress you out when you consider moving to a bad part of town. Your mind is doing its job in protecting you.

Your friend isn't listening to you. She's being a bit of a Pollyanna. (The apartment is in a bad part of town but forget that and focus on having an apartment in the first place! Be happy!) Not helpful.

 

[Deadman]

I don't think PTSD has anything to do with your fears. You already pointed out that the apartment is in a bad area of town and there is no close parking. Both are less than ideal.

Keep looking for a better place. Trust your instincts.

 

[Cannottakethis]

I think it's quite reasonable to be scared to be in an apartment in a bad part of town. My husband doesn't have ptsd but there are parts of town he doesn't even want to drive through. It sounds like your friend is well intentioned and trying to make you feel better, but maybe she could help you more by helping you find a better apartment in a better environment.

 

[Muted]

Were you victimized in this area or is it linked to your trauma in anyway? Even similar seemingly minor things?