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Yes, this can be summed up just with the idea that I believe my mother perhaps constructed and used corporal punishment as a means to abuse. She could label it discipline and do it correctly on the surface but really it was abuse.Before I answer this, let me be clear I don’t agree with physical punishment and don’t hit my child...
It was severe, overly strict, and for little things that shouldn't have been punished. Like expressing emotion. Everything was interpreted as being about me, I was inherently bad.
I don't agree with spanking but I do not feel it always equates abuse from an abusive person.
I think using objects is an abusive action (it is now illegal I believe).
My mother used it too much and for nothing.
One time I went away with strangers and my mom smacked me hard on the butt. I deserved that. I complained about something and got the hair brush that left welts, that's abuse.
In reality, what matters is what I think is abuse along with my T for my healing process to happen.