emotionallydrained
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Hello. I have been married for 23 years to my husband who served 25 years in military. He was diagnosed with severe PTSD over 7 years ago. I have supported him throughout all the different men he has become during these 7 years. 1000% supportive. Never complained, educated myself on how to help him deal with this horrible disease.
But in November 2011, I noticed something different with him. He was distance, even when he was here, unloving, uncaring, with a whole lot more negative emotions. I suspected he was having an affair, in which I asked him. Of course he said no, and continued to deny it. Even though I felt it deep down, I kept to myself which almost destroyed me for 18 months.
I received a envelop in mail with pictures and emails last year, without return name on it, but I still didn't say anything due to our daughter in college. But last month I hit rock bottom emotionally and asked him again, and he still denied. I finally informed him that I have received the pictures and he finally admitted it. But to my amazement he didn't or won't say sorry or ask for my forgiveness, even though during the 18 months he told me I didn't trust him, he was sick of me being sick, and he threatened my married if I ever mentioned it again. He told me not to contact her because there was no need. He told me he don't know what happened, she told him the same things I told him, but she made him feel better about himself, and he became obsessed about her. No matter what it cost him, but he went through so much trouble hiding it.
I found out today, even though he said she wasn't who he thought she was, he contacted her, again. He told me he feels no emotions, but I have come to feel that he shows emotions to other women and other individuals, just not to me. I am so emotionally drained and deprived that I don't know what to do or how to act. He is using his PTSD as his excuse for his affair. How do I deal knowing that he once again has put her above me and us.
But in November 2011, I noticed something different with him. He was distance, even when he was here, unloving, uncaring, with a whole lot more negative emotions. I suspected he was having an affair, in which I asked him. Of course he said no, and continued to deny it. Even though I felt it deep down, I kept to myself which almost destroyed me for 18 months.
I received a envelop in mail with pictures and emails last year, without return name on it, but I still didn't say anything due to our daughter in college. But last month I hit rock bottom emotionally and asked him again, and he still denied. I finally informed him that I have received the pictures and he finally admitted it. But to my amazement he didn't or won't say sorry or ask for my forgiveness, even though during the 18 months he told me I didn't trust him, he was sick of me being sick, and he threatened my married if I ever mentioned it again. He told me not to contact her because there was no need. He told me he don't know what happened, she told him the same things I told him, but she made him feel better about himself, and he became obsessed about her. No matter what it cost him, but he went through so much trouble hiding it.
I found out today, even though he said she wasn't who he thought she was, he contacted her, again. He told me he feels no emotions, but I have come to feel that he shows emotions to other women and other individuals, just not to me. I am so emotionally drained and deprived that I don't know what to do or how to act. He is using his PTSD as his excuse for his affair. How do I deal knowing that he once again has put her above me and us.
