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Supporter Boyfriend Has C-ptsd. He Has Joined This Forum Recently

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lmizutani

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Hello everyone,

I'm Lillian and my boyfriend has C-PTSD. He has joined this forum recently and thought it might be good for me to check it out as well.

When he first told me he has PTSD, my first thought was "war zone". Military analogies were my only exposure to this disorder. From what he had told me about his childhood, war zone is an apt phrase.

I have a weekly appointment with my psychotherapist for different reasons (feeling of "not good enough" which came from childhood - nothing to do with trauma) and my boyfriend has a counselor he sees weekly. We are trying to find our way through his PTSD, and his depression and other challenges.

Through my initial research in the area, I do know that this is something that can be managed in due time. Curing the complex PTSD may be a dream that may happen but I think that if we can get to a place where we can manage the adverse effects of this "mental injury" as someone put it (sorry, cannot recall who) that would be a blessing. I also know that each scenario is different and I cannot make generalizations - whatever your given situations are they are true and valid because they are true to you.

I mentioned to him today that I will not check on his posts unless he wants me to and I will likely restrict most of my postings to the supporters forums. I think that whatever he does post is his business and although most of the time he would tell me anyway, I don't want him to feel that he *has* to tell me. In any case I am a lot more reserved than he is (I'm Japanese in heritage - being reserved is part of the package).

I know that we are on a long journey here (actually I already knew that before he even mentioned PTSD - I had told him once that I have to love the entire person, not just parts of him - that is what he deserves).

Thanks for reading.
 
Welcome to the forums! You sound like a wonderful supporter and girlfriend. I'm really glad you are both reaching out for support for the journey.
 
Welcome to the forums! I feel it's nice to be there for each other and to be able to seek the information from a support role, while he explores his suffering. Together, I feel that both of you may not only assist each other, you'll cross paths as you likely discover something about yourselves too.
 
It's nice that you're so supportive, but if I had a partner I would feel very iffy/uncomfortable if he joined up here.
 
Hi Lillian,

My boyfriend and I are in a similar boat, on both the childhood trauma as well as the two of us floating around the forum sides of things. Neither of us is very reserved though so it works for us ;)

I've only been pottering around a short while but have learned heaps. Hope being here is just as useful for you :)
 
@imizutani I have been diagnosed with PTSD, and suspect it is CPTSD. I would be very interested in talking with your boyfriend. I am wondering if we share any similarity in background, and specifically if he has some of the same symptoms that I have. if he is willing to chat, have him contact me through this forum.

Thank you for being supportative of him.
 
@Imizutani Welcome to the forum! :)

I hope that you and your boyfriend find this site helpful both individually and as a couple.
 
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