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Calls, Cannot Doo

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Ronin

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I need to call an old friend about something / she put me together from child soldier mess & trained me differently back a while.

Last we talked, she said to call her about that something.

And I'm at cannot doo.
Because the whole thing is stupid.

So a Q, how do I make a call?
Bit of a wanna just avoid the damnedest. Avoid all of me.
 
Yo @Ronin

Thought dropping.. Do relate!
Because the so called Call - It seems to come with a tail of emergency attached to it- this step could be crucial- maybe the results of it is meaningful.
So yes Avoidence Dilemma on your way. And I know, I too rush through those corridors and stand in front of a swinging door -Shall I or shall I not enter? Shall I just close the door altogether?


All of me - breaking into bits and pieces

Undetermindness can stay for now, just show up with it.. left/right/middle who knows the center?
 
So a Q, how do I make a call?
I'm reading this as a phone call, correct?
My how to's for the difficult ones:

1. Write bullet points // full script of what I want to say. Knowing my brain will be Not There, as soon as I've dialled the number.

2. With putting the number in, you have to do the thing where you let your guard down a moment and just go for it. Putting in the number is the biggest hurdle (for me). Once that's in it's like phew I made it this far, may as well just continue now.

2.b) If you can't go through with staying on the line once the number is in, you know you've made it to that already and nothing fundamentally Bad happened so you can do it again.

3. Once you're on with them, use the script. Which, can be tailored to have a short intro by you immediately then putting the ball in their court.

Alternative to 3. Call at a time that isn't obviously I'm Calling When You're Unavailable, but means that you can leave a message and again put that ball into their court. Sometimes answering a call can be easier than making one.

4. Because it's a call (presumably telephone) they can't see you. So you can put yourself in whatever environment: comforts, dress, lights, dark, position in space, that will work in your favour with out any risen eyebrows.

Apologies if I'm way off the mark on understanding your post; am a wee bit sleep dep'ed.
Most off: whatever it is, you got this.
 
Thanks mucho Bells.

On target very much.
I maybe need to shift focus back from content and context, to form. Forms may be easier ta handle.

Also: :tup: Rocking advice, esp sleep deprived. Not sure how to words on compliment I'm tryna make here, but yes.
 
Can you start it with a text? That's easiest for me.

"I'm wondering if you have some time to discuss xyz. Call me when you get some time."

You can feel the waters before actually having to speak to them.

 
Bro.....this is tough. I hear you. @Rani G has a point. We think about some stuff as a cue or clue, before emergency zone shows.
All good suggestions made for taking steps to make the call....in addition to @LuckiLee post, if control is needed and you don’t want unexpected phone calls....send text with dates and times that work for you and friend can choose. But that might also make too much pressure....just options to consider.

From me, and you can smack me if it’s outta line. Chicken says make the call cuz:
she put me together from child soldier mess
This is special, she took the time to understand who you are and to walk with you on your journey.
You deserve very good people around you, sounds like she’s one.
Doesn’t make the call any easier, but again.....chicken says call. When ready.
 
I needed this thread right now.

Reckon I might be able to tackle voicemail backlog: focus on the process - punching buttons on the phone - not the content.
 
Glad to help, @Sideways :tup:

And alike glad for your phone point. Because I dig my phone itself... and focusing on buttons, shapes, and other such smucks is shazaam.

Closer to doable, anyway. In the lair of Miight be doable. Which = progress.
 
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