In society there is organisations and groups for seemingly everything and every issue. For ex drug addicts. For those that suffers from narsisitic abuse wether from family or partner. There is organisations and groups from those that suffered from incest and other sexual abuse. From alcohol. And so forth and so forth and so forth.
All this aim to provide support and help to those that feel targeted at the issue in name.
But - there is no organisation and no group for people abandoned by their unloving family. As Ive found atleast.
I wonder what is your opinion why it is so?
Also I wonder is this something that would aid you in some of your personal needs?
Personally I belive that the reason must be that there is so much shame attached to having to leave your / cut out family cause of poison or destructive family bonds. Even if many f us realise its not on us, but on our respective families. Still the toxic shame seems to leave heavy burden on our shoulders in a way that none has seized the oportunity to start such a group to offer support that would be in dire need to many of us.
In my country even the national song reflect on the importance to keep the family togheter no matter what - if nothing else it seems for the sake of the nation it self. One line in the song goes like "love to think about my father and my mother". For me its a terrible song and a reason for me to stay as far and away fron the national day of our country as possible. Can not and will not sing a hymn to such a terrible ideology that demands that Ill delete and erase all the terrible done to me exactly by the father and the mom Im supposed to love to think about. For the sake of the nation.
I belive this song and especially as a national song puts more restraints on those that have troubled families and the need to put the blame on our selves for not being able nor capable to manage to have good family bonds as it seemes to be demanded.
Ive found it dificult to tell people when the family issue comes up in conversations. I know for me I can say very simple and no drama that we are not in contact. But I also knows the affect it will have on the person I talk with. The questions that will come. And I can partly understand that. But still it makes it hard for me in a way that Ive choosen to tell people that they died in a car accident when I was very young. It lets me of the hook.
For those of you that has cut of family bonds - how does this affects you in perspective of relating to other people? How do you deal with it?
Sorry of my post is messy / confusing or anything like that. Probably should have been more thoughtful to write it and use time to reflect more. Just want to get it out there quik
All this aim to provide support and help to those that feel targeted at the issue in name.
But - there is no organisation and no group for people abandoned by their unloving family. As Ive found atleast.
I wonder what is your opinion why it is so?
Also I wonder is this something that would aid you in some of your personal needs?
Personally I belive that the reason must be that there is so much shame attached to having to leave your / cut out family cause of poison or destructive family bonds. Even if many f us realise its not on us, but on our respective families. Still the toxic shame seems to leave heavy burden on our shoulders in a way that none has seized the oportunity to start such a group to offer support that would be in dire need to many of us.
In my country even the national song reflect on the importance to keep the family togheter no matter what - if nothing else it seems for the sake of the nation it self. One line in the song goes like "love to think about my father and my mother". For me its a terrible song and a reason for me to stay as far and away fron the national day of our country as possible. Can not and will not sing a hymn to such a terrible ideology that demands that Ill delete and erase all the terrible done to me exactly by the father and the mom Im supposed to love to think about. For the sake of the nation.
I belive this song and especially as a national song puts more restraints on those that have troubled families and the need to put the blame on our selves for not being able nor capable to manage to have good family bonds as it seemes to be demanded.
Ive found it dificult to tell people when the family issue comes up in conversations. I know for me I can say very simple and no drama that we are not in contact. But I also knows the affect it will have on the person I talk with. The questions that will come. And I can partly understand that. But still it makes it hard for me in a way that Ive choosen to tell people that they died in a car accident when I was very young. It lets me of the hook.
For those of you that has cut of family bonds - how does this affects you in perspective of relating to other people? How do you deal with it?
Sorry of my post is messy / confusing or anything like that. Probably should have been more thoughtful to write it and use time to reflect more. Just want to get it out there quik
