Co-dependency

[Engineer]

They're too busy to shoot me a text or call to say that something is taking up their time but, they still care. So, I believe that it's my fault. They haven't called because I wasn't kind enough or didn't say interesting things. The instant they return and respond my whole world seems to be back in balance. Most people already know they are busy and don't take offense. But, for me something as simple as purposely ignoring me can set me off in this state of self-blaming. I don't really know how to move past this and survive on my own without needing a person to make me feel like: I mater, I am worthy, I amount to something. But, if there's any way to change this I am willing to try. Try until I succeed.

This is very similar to a previous post of mine. But, with more details and honestly I wrote it to vent because I am frustrated by this.

 

[Recovery4Me]

I am a grateful recovering co-dependent and have been so since 2007. There are many books in the library, to assist with a 12 step program called Codependents Anonymous. As well they have meetings online.
Outside of the 12 step program, you can find many books at Amazon that may help you move forward.
You already took the first step and admitted that you had a concern! Awesome and courageous step at that.
Hope this helps you a little bit and glad you found us on the board.

 

[SophiaWisdom]

Oh man this is why @Recovery4Me resonates with me - I came on to say:

I'm a grateful believer of Christ and recovering codependent. (That's the Celebrate Recovery version of the 12-step program we do - we have 8 steps I believe that corresponds to the Beatitudes, though I've heard we have 16 steps but I'll stick with 8 it's easier :P).

I definitely am codependent with literally anybody and anything - strangers I just met. It's truly my cross to work through!

 

[Engineer]

I am a grateful recovering co-dependent and have been so since 2007. There are many books in the l...

I don't seem to be able to find help on Co-dependency sites. They're centered on Co-dependent romantic relationships and for me it's friendship, strangers, etc. I'll try Co-dependency anyonomous though. Oddly enough the anyonomity makes me not want to go there. Even though we have that here too. Guess it's a bit more extreme on that site.

 

[Recovery4Me]

This author assisted me greatly and has a web site if the CODA program doesn't seem to fit. She has several books for the new codependency geared for the younger generation that steps out from romantic relationships or dancing around the alcoholic.
Official Website of Best Selling Author Melody Beattie

Codependency is an insidious destroyer and can rob much joy if left unattended. We needed it once to survive, so there is no shame in having an survival conditioning. However, boundary building is very instrumental in building a freer, independent life. (((hugs))) if you accept