With being abused as a child our view of sex is different than ppl not abused. I think it takes a lot of conscious effort on both partners to make it healthy and loving. I think in a healthy relationship you can act like porn stars all you want as long as love is at the base of your relationship and nobody is feeling abused by what you're doing. As long as there's mutual respect I think being adventurous is fine. But if you're struggling with issues of consent now, then being too adventurous is only going to complicate your problems.
Consent, respect, start with the core issues. You don't have to figure it all out at once. But you do have to take a stand for yourself now, if you want it to become healthy for you.