Calm in the chaos
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Thanks for this thread, I need to come back to it.
Someone asked me once what gender I’d truly be without the whole DID thing. And when I researched it the obvious answer would be a non binary individual. And that was really interesting to me.
If someone asks, I say I’m ace. Am I actually? Who knows. But if they think that sex if off the cards, the would they still want me? So if someone asks me my sexuality… that’s what I say. The idea that me “wanting sex” and not it being chosen for me, is kind of against my belief system. So maybe it’s down to that… but I would love a relationship where I could cuddle but go no further.
As for my actual gender. I feel female. I know I’ve never wanted a penis, but the idea of actually being a MAN would change things. When I have male parts close to front, I get dysphoria so so bad. I wear a binder sometimes for that exact reason. I dress in jeans and band t-shirts. High neckline and baggy.
I live in a very queer city. It’s the type of place that it is a lot more accepted to be gender non-conforming. I think a lot of people move here for that exact reason.
Someone asked me once what gender I’d truly be without the whole DID thing. And when I researched it the obvious answer would be a non binary individual. And that was really interesting to me.
If someone asks, I say I’m ace. Am I actually? Who knows. But if they think that sex if off the cards, the would they still want me? So if someone asks me my sexuality… that’s what I say. The idea that me “wanting sex” and not it being chosen for me, is kind of against my belief system. So maybe it’s down to that… but I would love a relationship where I could cuddle but go no further.
As for my actual gender. I feel female. I know I’ve never wanted a penis, but the idea of actually being a MAN would change things. When I have male parts close to front, I get dysphoria so so bad. I wear a binder sometimes for that exact reason. I dress in jeans and band t-shirts. High neckline and baggy.
I live in a very queer city. It’s the type of place that it is a lot more accepted to be gender non-conforming. I think a lot of people move here for that exact reason.
