The I love you'd and I'll move to be with you yada, yada, yada are red flags in a two week relationship. IMHO
I really don’t expect anyone to understand. I realize that it sounds ridiculous after two weeks, but it was very intense...and that intensity was started by him
I so appreciate that you are sharing what it is like for you when you isolate. It really helps me to understand how his brain may be working. I’m sure it’s different for everyone, but does it usually last days, weeks, months? I can’t stop worrying about him.
It lasts until its over. There is no "when." Sometimes I isolate at home, sometimes I run away. Sometimes its a few hours, sometimes its a few weeks. It ends when it ends.I’m sure it’s different for everyone, but does it usually last days, weeks, months? I can’t stop worrying about him.
It lasts until its over. There is no "when." Sometimes I isolate at home, sometimes I run away. Sometimes its a few hours, sometimes its a few weeks. It ends when it ends.
I think part of what you are misunderstanding is the idea that I have any control. It just -- happens. I know there are things that make it worse or more apt to happen, but a lot of times it just hits me. It's what makes a relationship so hard.
And I'm going to guess the only two weeks thing is really working against you. Intense relationship is great - until I think WTF am I doing and run. Intense is not a ptsd friendly term.
My suggestions? Leave him alone and go on with your life. If he wants to come back he can catch up with you. Maybe you will be there, maybe you wont. Or, except that you may be in this holding pattern for a unknown length of time with no answers. Its a tough choice - but ....
@leehalf i didnt mean i RAGE at him, i meant I'm getting out what is raging inside me. I don't yell at all, but I do get emotional. I don't have an anger problem.
There was some subtlety in how I expressed myself here and it seems to have come across wrong or been lost in translation. Believe me, if I had ever raged at him? I would never hear from him again.
In fact, even if I am angry or hurt or frustrated, I am usually telling him how I feel and not placing blame. I say I feel hurt or angry or confused...things like that.
And i do know this isn't the best thing to do either in these moments, which is why I said I am working on it. However, I am human and I have emotions and they will come out.
Please don't berate me when I said multiple times this is something i am working on and something I want to do better with.
Hi Brook,Great question!
He sounds like a gentleman I dated. We were friends for years and he asked me out out of the blue. It was very intense six months as you described and one day he just disappeared. Wouldn’t reply, blocked me, etc.
we got in touch three months later and he was very withdrawn. But we built a friendship back up. flashforward a year later, we tried again. I asked him what happened and he said he didn’t know how to explain it but it was ptsd. I later found there had Been other women and he pulled the same on them.
This was well over five years ago...He has since been engaged a few times and falls into old ways. It was the most painful experience I ever had. To the point that I wound up cutting him of to heal and when he pops up in town to get his kids I’m still ina state of emotion.
Trust me, it leaves a deep wound. And even darker scar.