No. It wasn’t your fault. You didn’t kill her. That decision was hers, and hers alone.And it wasn't my fault.
No matter how much we love someone, no matter how much we hate the decision they made or how much we wish we could change things or how much it hurts us, it was still their decision to make. Being affected by other people’s choices? Doesn’t make their choices our responsibility. No matter how much we might want them to be. They still have their own agency, and we ours.
The hole they left. The pain that fills it. <<< That’s our responsibility to sort out, our choices to make, to move forward in our lives once they’ve left.
...But since it falls unto my lot
That I should rise and you should not
I'll gently rise and I'll softly call
Good night and joy be with you all...
One of my favourite versions