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Yes, it was from a prolonged incident outside the family home. She has been under CAMHS for 18 m...
It is VITAL that the therapist doing the EMDR be the right one to understand and relate to your daughter and utilize correct application of EMDR methods.
I was so fortunate that after seeing a myriad of counselors, therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists over a 40 year period I found one I could relate to who was proficient at her craft. I saw her for 7 years and resolved issues that allowed me to see things from a different perspective and to defend myself against those who used me through my weaknesses. For the first time I felt I had some control and was able to make some changes and not allow myself to be an object of certain types of abuse.
Even at that, it reached a point when my therapist no longer understood my issues because she herself had not experienced them or worked through them, and had a skewed perception of what was going on because she did not have all the knowledge she needed to address them.
That is another point - if you have not experienced what she has, and then worked through it sequentially to a point of healing you cannot know what she is thinking or going through. You cannot know by observance alone what her brain is doing. There are so many common misconceptions about what is causing particular behavior. I saw this in myself as a woman in her 60's after doing my own research over years.
There is more research on the brain now than ever before so most therapists do not know what is actually happening in the brain, but scientific research is discovering things that are physical, ie., that the brain changes after trauma.
My therapist was exactly my age, same gender, same religious beliefs (or similar) and was very compassionate because she had been raised in a similar position as mine so understood much of that living condition.
As I said, I have CPTSD, not PTSD, which is more able to be overcome especially by EMDR. CPTSD is caused by prolonged exposure to abuse with no escape particularly in youth.
After my initial mental & emotional breakdown it took 12 years before I even began to heal. It was due to living with loving, patient, accepting Christian believers and going on to find a church where I found the joy of faith lived out in the hearts of the congregation. It was purely by chance. That is MY story. I was an adult by then.
I wanted to emphasize that you may think you understand what is going on because of patterns of her behavior, but you and millions of others do not, because the information has not come to light in the general public.
I hope I am not coming across as condemning or punitive. I want to give you information to help you understand all the parameters in the problem, from the perspective of one who has and is going through a similar perpetual inner trauma. There is so much more involved than the experts know. An expert is usually a person who says they are an expert. We are all naive until we are forced to change.
