Disrupting the conversational narrative with experience

[Gamera3000]

Has someone in regular conversation ever asked you for your experience with something and then gotten upset or mad because you didn't say what they were expecting? Perhaps even suggested you had an unusual experience and should reassess your position?

This has happened to me a few times, most recently the other day and I wondered if it was common or just something that I happen to notice because it irritates me.

 

[CatInTree]

I've had that happen with reasons.

"Why did you want to [reason for actions that I didn't have and never indicated]?"
"Who said anything about [reason]?"
"I did and you didn't answer the question."

It says more about what they want confirmed than anything else.

 

[EveHarrington]

Yes. It’s a conversational style I personally detest!

 

[Deleted member 541]

Makes you want to bang your head against the wall, and ask them... What the f*ck did you ask my opinion for, if you didn’t want it in the first place?!?!?!? ?

 

[Friday]

:hilarious: :roflmao:

I've had people tell me "Well, clearly, you've never experienced ABC!"

Yup. I have. That's what I was commenting on. My experience with ABC. Reasonable people? Can & do differ.

Also been called a liar more times than I can count. Shrug. Whatever. That my experience doesn't fit in their neat little world view? Ain't my problem.

 

[Freida]

If you ask for my advice or experience you will get it. If you are stupid enough to tell me you don't like the answer I'm going to laugh in your face. And you will be smart enough not to ask again.:)

 

[ladee]

I keep it simple and ask if they want the truth or for me to tell them what they want to hear.
It most often confuses them and the ball is in their court.
Saves a lot of meaningless noise going out into the world already full of meaningless noise.

 

[Gamera3000]

Shrug. Whatever. That my experience doesn't fit in their neat little world view? Ain't my problem.

If you ask for my advice or experience you will get it. If you are stupid enough to tell me you don't like the answer I'm going to laugh in your face. And you will be smart enough not to ask again.:)

I wish I had the poise to respond in either of these ways! Instead I just smile politely and simmer.

 

[anonymous]

It happens to me quite often... for example when I am a member of certain groups and people tell me that I am not a REAL member of that group because a REAL member would act different, hold different opinions and so on.

I am a real member of that group. I was born one. So sorry I do not live up to people‘s stereotypes about us. I am sure all that people would make far better members of our group. Too bad they were not born one.

I also hate it when people tell me that my experiences with X must be Y because this is what the friend of the military brother of their room mates third degree cousins experienced. So anybody having another experience must be an idiot... or lying... or both...

People are different and make different experiences. Get over it.