Do You Ever Miss The Attention That Comes With A Crisis?

[The Albatross]

Ahem. You said, "I feel like a young kid who needs constant attention sometimes and don't know how to get that as an independent adult." I think I would self examine the need for attention and why you feels it is more satisfactory than being an independent adult.

 

[The Albatross]

Heh... thanks Scout... I got so much f'ing attention that it almost f'ing killed me. Naw, I don't like or miss "attention"... I like and embrace personal responsibility and if I want attention I do something inspiring or helpful or useful for somebody.

 

[angrypanda]

Due to years of abuse and or neglect from almost every adult as a child I also have an attachment disorder. I fear attachments and desperately cling to those I do trust. I struggle with the same need for assurance that I am loved and do miss the extra love and affection given when I am struggling. I am also developmentally like a child when dealing with attachment and relationships and those close to me have to be patient. It takes a lot of work, scary leaps of trust, setting boundaries and time but it does get better.

 

[Snowflake]

Due to years of abuse and or neglect from almost every adult as a child I also have an attachment dis...

Sounds so much like me

 

[mary1979]

Oh heck no, I hate feeling needy, its as traumatic as the trauma itself was

 

[8888]

Yes, I thought I was the only one. I don't really have any social connections so I crave attention.

 

[Ronin]

I dislike attention with a passion. And when I'm doing badly? Giving anyone that much control as to try to help me? Nah f*ck off with all of that.

 

[Panda Bear]

Hmm...nope.

Don't miss it at all, I don't ever recall it being attention ANYONE would want to recieve on a long term basis.

I'm happy my life is evening out.

 

[theshadowoftheliving]

I think that there are a few things going on here:

You want human connection, which is what a crisis facilitates. Maybe, its just a matter of working to make connection BEFORE things get to crisis stage.

You want validation that what you feel is real - a crisis means that you really are upset and have a reason to be upset.

Just some thoughts, because I feel like I totally relate to this.

 

[EveHarrington]

At first.

But then you realize how awesome the calm is and no amount of attention would EVER be worth sacrificing the calm. (EVER! lol)