Gs172003
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Eliminating Exposure To Ptsd For Others' Sake?
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Thank you @missy meier , for your kindness.Wish you didn't though (struggle that way also). I also feel bad to write.
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@missy meier , I can't thank you enough, your post above helped a lot. I think I realize it's not just ptsd I struggle with, or rather it's about ptsd I struggle with (among other things), the ptsd itself is always there afterall.
Must rush to work shortly, not sure if this is where to put this but if I don't write something down I'll have nothing to cue me to remember.
I went to a funeral I didn't plan to go to- didn't even set alarm clock. And realized much:
- the future is planned out (I believe by God, of course to each his own), who recognizes what we will need when we have no clue.
I've always heard you have to love yourself to love others- not true. You have to love yourself to accept love, but some people give love for the sake of giving it (& that can be useful eg in certain professions, etc.)
I
When we die I believe there is more, but we can or even should be, able to be enthusiastic/ vulnerable with God. Like it was said tody when we get there we can brag about all our loved ones (to God), that is talk about all their goodness & what they've done for us (as someone who does palliative care maybe also what we weren't able to say), our gratitude, their needs. There will be freedom, & peace. (Conversely I think vs suicide/ we'd have to talk about that with God/ get it out of the way first/ reconcile it. :( )
It came to me - & someone told me here too, he said ~"trust me people will tell you when you are a burden"/ they will abandon you. But this is true- everyone says when the sh*t hits the fan, you find out who your real friends are/ most or none will be there. In good times= yes, bad no. That is true for most people- not all but most are not there when their loved ones even become in need.
With ptsd- or at least myself for a very long time- I've been an awful burden. But perhaps, like the title of this thread, it isn't about eliminating exposure, but if you're fortunate enough, being grateful for who & what God provided that supports/ helps/ didn't leave (in this case myself) abandoned or rejected because of me having ptsd (& what I've done, or specifically how I've been or am, in a large part because of the ptsd.)
And that all of these things that happen to us, well there is ultimately a reason or we would be on a different path, everything could be different.
I guess too ultimately, no matter what ,when we go, all that will matter is the love we gave, but also the love we received. The same reason it's 'good' when when we are in need, in so far as provided there is love to be received.
It sort of defaults everything, if you don't help others but also if you don't let others help you. It's not so much about all of the good things people associate life with- milestones as it were, -those are a wee bit of the icing not even the cake- but really loving & being loved if God gives you that. Especially , like I can say, being vulnerable myself.
Hope that makes sense, can't re-read atm!
Oh yes, -& I think God wants us to be vulnerable/ ~ourselves with Him (I don't mean that disrespectfully, rather as unguarded, true, etc), & we can get to doing that more easily by practising here on earth doing it with people, too. Then when we die, it will be seamless/ the same way.
(JMHO! :rolleyes:)
Must rush to work shortly, not sure if this is where to put this but if I don't write something down I'll have nothing to cue me to remember.
I went to a funeral I didn't plan to go to- didn't even set alarm clock. And realized much:
- the future is planned out (I believe by God, of course to each his own), who recognizes what we will need when we have no clue.
I've always heard you have to love yourself to love others- not true. You have to love yourself to accept love, but some people give love for the sake of giving it (& that can be useful eg in certain professions, etc.)
I
When we die I believe there is more, but we can or even should be, able to be enthusiastic/ vulnerable with God. Like it was said tody when we get there we can brag about all our loved ones (to God), that is talk about all their goodness & what they've done for us (as someone who does palliative care maybe also what we weren't able to say), our gratitude, their needs. There will be freedom, & peace. (Conversely I think vs suicide/ we'd have to talk about that with God/ get it out of the way first/ reconcile it. :( )
It came to me - & someone told me here too, he said ~"trust me people will tell you when you are a burden"/ they will abandon you. But this is true- everyone says when the sh*t hits the fan, you find out who your real friends are/ most or none will be there. In good times= yes, bad no. That is true for most people- not all but most are not there when their loved ones even become in need.
With ptsd- or at least myself for a very long time- I've been an awful burden. But perhaps, like the title of this thread, it isn't about eliminating exposure, but if you're fortunate enough, being grateful for who & what God provided that supports/ helps/ didn't leave (in this case myself) abandoned or rejected because of me having ptsd (& what I've done, or specifically how I've been or am, in a large part because of the ptsd.)
And that all of these things that happen to us, well there is ultimately a reason or we would be on a different path, everything could be different.
I guess too ultimately, no matter what ,when we go, all that will matter is the love we gave, but also the love we received. The same reason it's 'good' when when we are in need, in so far as provided there is love to be received.
It sort of defaults everything, if you don't help others but also if you don't let others help you. It's not so much about all of the good things people associate life with- milestones as it were, -those are a wee bit of the icing not even the cake- but really loving & being loved if God gives you that. Especially , like I can say, being vulnerable myself.
Hope that makes sense, can't re-read atm!
Oh yes, -& I think God wants us to be vulnerable/ ~ourselves with Him (I don't mean that disrespectfully, rather as unguarded, true, etc), & we can get to doing that more easily by practising here on earth doing it with people, too. Then when we die, it will be seamless/ the same way.
(JMHO! :rolleyes:)
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Yes @missy meier like you said 'knowing WHAT you struggle with'.
Everyone I see or meet IS already exposed to ptsd- through me, 'everyone is exposed'. And the Ptsd is always 'there' and has been for a long time so nothing changes that (except to manage symptoms). So the struggle doesn't relate to admitting the ptsd is always there, even if asymptomatic or lower level intensity or frequency of symptoms.
And those who do not want to stay will leave. (Can't quite recall the safeguard to ensure it's not too much, but I heard it not long ago so will have to find it). You don't have to tell people to leave, if they want to or need to they will. Or tell you to go.
Everyone I see or meet IS already exposed to ptsd- through me, 'everyone is exposed'. And the Ptsd is always 'there' and has been for a long time so nothing changes that (except to manage symptoms). So the struggle doesn't relate to admitting the ptsd is always there, even if asymptomatic or lower level intensity or frequency of symptoms.
And those who do not want to stay will leave. (Can't quite recall the safeguard to ensure it's not too much, but I heard it not long ago so will have to find it). You don't have to tell people to leave, if they want to or need to they will. Or tell you to go.
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