Emberrassing Problem, Sexual In Nature

[void]

Just had a talk with my T. Mom came with and we talked about life. My move overseas etc. Also p...

How long have u been in therapy over the fetish?

 

[cat-lady]

Some anti-depressants/anti-anxiety meds that are often used for ptsd have a side effect of reducing sex drive. I'm thinking of SSRI's like zoloft, prozac, etc which are pretty safe. I'm not suggesting that you try to medicate away your sex drive as a permanent solution. But maybe it would give you a chance to step away from this cycle and view it more objectively to get some insights. That way you could challenge yourself in therapy more without triggering yourself into a spiral and maybe get some healing done that way. I'm not sure it this is the right answer for you. Only you and your therapist can decide that for sure, but just a thought it was worth suggesting.

 

[Wondering_Loner]

I finally stopped a few days ago. My T recommended I come up with a list of alternative activities and the only non compatible thing I could think of was socializing. I had given up and realized how lonely I am, and the urge just backed off a lot and I had a lot of daydreams about actually talking to people. If it comes back I'm going to start zoloft.

As for accepting my fetish I go around in an acceptance/denial loop. Honestly I want something more normal. I don't really want to disclose the exact nature of it. I don't mind it being there just being pushed around by it against my will. Letting it just be a daydream is ok, but being forced to cross my boundaries is intolerable.

I have talked about it in therapy as a matter of fact I get stuck on that instead of the traumas a lot.

 

[Wondering_Loner]

Yes sexual expression should leave you feeling a variety of things that can be described as good....

Its really really rare and 98% male.

 

[Adrian2016]

Please tell me you are not seeking advice on how to overcome pedophilia. Please tell me that is not what you are talking about. Pretty sure they have pther forums for people like that. Many on here have had years of pain caused by people with that particular fetish. I hope you would not taunt those people by talking about it here, a place full of child sexual abise survivors. You wouldnt do that would you?

 

[Adrian2016]

Like, for real man, WOW.

 

[Adrian2016]

If that is not it, I apologize but it seems to me that that is what you are referring to. Although I would call that more of a disgusting perversion than a fetish.

 

[Wondering_Loner]

no I'm not into that........

erhm I'm canceling my account this is too embarrassing.

 

[Adrian2016]

no I'm not into that........

erhm I'm canceling my account this is too embarrassing.

Dude im sorry dont delete your account!

 

[Adrian2016]

Seriously man I'm in a bad head space and I crossed the line. Don't leave the forum. I just hate pedos as my siblings have all been molested. But you said you are not one and I believe you! I am really sorry brother. Stay on the forum! I was in the wrong my man. Im sorry :(

 

[Adrian2016]

If it makes you feel better, I used to think I was gay for about a year. That is very hard for me to say. But there you have it. I thought I was gay because I had a period of fantasizing about men. I'm not gay, it was just a wierd phase. ( and if you are dealing with this I'm not anti-gay) please bro...don't leave the forum you deserve to be here and i would hate to be the cause of any more pain in your life...I'll leave you alone man...sorry once again

 

[Wondering_Loner]

Its not your fault. I know its really creepy what I brought up here. I just haven't been doing well with this in therapy. I saw some posts of people quitting on here, but I guess they have worked on other issue. Please please dont beat yourself up over this, but I just don't do well in forums anyways.