EMDR With The Inner Child Rather Than The Adult?

[Snowflake]

Have you or have you heard of a therapist doing EMDR with the inner child rather than the adult?

 

[EveHarrington]

Given your recent inner child struggles, I’d hold off for now.

Giving anyone access to your inner child can be extremely devastating if the inner child gets hurt somehow. It’s best to take things slowly with her.

 

[shimmerz]

Hmmm, I do inner child work with Matrix Reimprinting which is a more complex form of Emotional Freedom Technique. I have never heard of it being done through EMDR though. I would hold off on that unless you are super certain that EMDR works well for you and you are super comfortable with it.

I can't imagine that EMDR doesn't pull some of our little's out though. Any takers on that?

 

[Snowflake]

Hmmm, I do inner child work with Matrix Reimprinting which is a more complex form of Emotional Freedom Technique. I have never heard of it being done through EMDR though. I would hold off on that unless you are super certain that EMDR works well for you and you are super comfortable with it.

I can't imagine that EMDR doesn't pull some of our little's out though. Any takers on that?

I want my therapist to talk to her. Not me. Give her a voice.

 

[Wendell_R]

I've done a lot of resource-building EMDR with my Little Guys. Initially, they were afraid of the EMDR apparatus & process. We went really slowly until they could trust that my therapist would protect them and keep them from being hurt. We did a lot of non-EMDR work first to give the young ones both trust and a voice.

My heavy-duty trauma EMDR is with the adult, but all the Little Guys sit on a sofa in the room. That was actually my choice. My parts blur, so everybody ends up hearing everything anyway. Being safe on the sofa and hearing these things with my therapist there to protect me is better than the experience leaking out to the Little Guys when we're on our own. My therapist says they may come in of their own accord, and we will be careful to keep them safe.

 

[ILoveLife]

I want my therapist to talk to her. Not me. Give her a voice.

You struggle a lot with inner child communication. Is this really wise?
I mean, is it what's best for you? You are your inner child, not allowing to communicate with yourself and going through the process of EMDR at the same time seems like a flood of symptoms waiting to happen.

What does your T say about this?

 

[Snowflake]

You struggle a lot with inner child communication. Is this really wise?
I mean, is it what's best for you? You are your inner child, not allowing to communicate with yourself and going through the process of EMDR at the same time seems like a flood of symptoms waiting to happen.

What does your T say about this?

She doesn’t think it’s safe. She said it can’t be inner and her-the adult me has to be there too.

Yes I struggle a lot. I feel stuck in my inner child-the adult and her are struggling to connect.

 

[ILoveLife]

Are you waiting for something to be able to get unstuck?
It does take a while to be able to do it, not everyone even feels they have an inner child. And that's okay too. Whatever is comfortable for you, and makes you better. Making you better and getting you comfortable is the whole point of trauma therapy.

 

[Snowflake]

Are you waiting for something to be able to get unstuck?
It does take a while to be able to do it, not everyone even feels they have an inner child. And that's okay too. Whatever is comfortable for you, and makes you better. Making you better and getting you comfortable is the whole point of trauma therapy.

I don’t know how to get unstuck. That’s why I thought if she did EMDR through the inner child it would allow her (inner child) to have a voice. She also has huge attachment and abandonment issues. She’s wanting things she’ll never get. It’s a huge loss she’s feeling-like a death.

 

[ILoveLife]

That sucks, I'm sorry :hug:
What kind of work does your T want to do about it?

 

[Snowflake]

That sucks, I'm sorry :hug:
What kind of work does your T want to do about it?

Idk. I do slot of writing now and we read it together. We do a lot of EMDR but I shut down/dissociate easily. I’m a failure I think. A hopeless case.

 

[shimmerz]

She said it can’t be inner and her-the adult me has to be there too.

True story. Otherwise you are just exacerbating the split.

I feel stuck in my inner child-the adult and her are struggling to connect.

I gave my inner child (one of them) a teddy bear to hold so she wasn't lonely and I made her a promise that I would include her in things that I thought would be fun for her. I found I needed a connection based on trust before I could bring her out to deal with the dark stuff.

It sounds like you are super frustrated, which generally shuts down inner child communiction. Is that possible?