Emotional abuse- recurrent

[Overcoming]

I grew up with an extremely emotionally abusive mother. Dysfunction was my normal. I was parentified, and talk to as though I would never be enough. More recently, I've discovered that my husband of five years has been talking down to me in the same way. I'm upset with myself for not realizing it sooner. The Mind Games, the manipulation. It scares me to think that I struggle to identify abuse in my own life. I love my husband very much and I'm confronting the issue with him, but it is a long process. It is apparent that he will certainly has some of his own issues. I am just bothered but I keep ending up in similar situations. I begin to feel crazy and like I cannot trust myself.

 

[Sideways]

Try not to get too angry with yourself, because it's really normal to end up in similar relationships. The insight you have now is brilliant, and it's progress - try and congratulate yourself for learning that skill and deciding to change:)

 

[Deleted member 541]

I agree with @Ragdoll Circus You've recognized a problem within your marriage, and so now you have to find a way for a good solution.... Don't blame yourself. Sometimes we choose things, relationships that we are comfortable with, and as we get healthier we "see" what we now realize was something we were trying to get away from. It's OK!!!! Your love for him and understanding will help you to come up with a solution.....