Emotions - I guess an emotional rollercoaster is part of the healing process, right?

[Tinyflame]

Idk @the10thleper319 if tightening our neck/back/shoulder muscles contributes when thinking of or discussing such things, but I can relate to even the thought of having to say or do something can make me physically sick to my stomach for sure.

I hope the doctor's recommendations work and you feel much better soon!

 

[the10thleper319]

Idk @the10thleper319 if tightening our neck/back/shoulder muscles contributes when thinking of or discussing such things, but I can relate to even the thought of having to say or do something can make me physically sick to my stomach for sure.

I hope the doctor's recommendations work and you feel much better soon!

Thank you for your reply and concern. It's a case of psychosomatic disorder. Thank God it's not another organic illness like hypertension or cancer,

 

[the10thleper319]

How do I balance emotions with a positive perspective? It's natural to feel sadness due to trauma. I attempt to lessen the overall pain with "it could be worse." I've seen worse: bed and chairs 2-3 deep in the ERs, and at the physical rehab I was at in the spring due to a stenosis-induced fall I resided with stroke victims with the bent arm and single and double leg amputees. How do I balance feeling sad about the whole situation with "Well, my legs aren't what they used to be but at least I got them." I also feel I should be more grateful all the medical tests for the nausea came back negative, again trying to maintain a positive perspective. Thanks.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think it's hard to remain positive when you don't feel well @the10thleper319 , or are struggling, or you are unable to do even with difficulty what was your norm. But, as much as it is true there are always others with greater challenges, it still doesn't lessen the grief and frustration and fear you feel with your own. And you are right to feel it. I think one part of regaining some positivity is actually acknowledging the truth of how crappy you feel- whatever you feel. Whether it's talking to yourself or a Higher Power, or someone who understands. Or hearing validation of the same situation with others. I am not sure that positivity is negating what is there, but maybe acknowledging what is there but it is not the end and doing what you can do, today or maybe tomorrow. Accepting the differences but also applauding your wins and perseverance and being gentler and kinder with yourself. Doing what perhaps is more enjoyable and/or even more important than what you could do before this situation, because some things might have a different level of importance now and a different perspective. And taking a hard look at redefining what is the most important to you. (Society defines for eg who can run the fastest as gold, but that fades and one step when it's difficult can be worth a purple heart.) You are still YOU, that will never change.

Hugs ++ to you.

 

[the10thleper319]

I think it's hard to remain positive when you don't feel well @the10thleper319 , or are struggling, or you are unable to do even with difficulty what was your norm. But, as much as it is true there are always others with greater challenges, it still doesn't lessen the grief and frustration and fear you feel with your own. And you are right to feel it. I think one part of regaining some positivity is actually acknowledging the truth of how crappy you feel- whatever you feel. Whether it's talking to yourself or a Higher Power, or someone who understands. Or hearing validation of the same situation with others. I am not sure that positivity is negating what is there, but maybe acknowledging what is there but it is not the end and doing what you can do, today or maybe tomorrow. Accepting the differences but also applauding your wins and perseverance and being gentler and kinder with yourself. Doing what perhaps is more enjoyable and/or even more important than what you could do before this situation, because some things might have a different level of importance now and a different perspective. And taking a hard look at redefining what is the most important to you. (Society defines for eg who can run the fastest as gold, but that fades and one step when it's difficult can be worth a purple heart.) You are still YOU, that will never change.

Hugs ++ to you.

Wise words. Well said. THANK YOU!

 

[the10thleper319]

I believe I received healing wisdom from Above. A pastor spoke of a negative mind filter. For example: 5 people at work said your presentation was terrific, and one coworker was less enthused. We concentrate on the negative review. What’s more popular in the news and on social media? Negative stories. My inability to do more and always need to be bed-ridden saddens me. Yesterday I had two successes: I ordered lunch and worked on another music video for a sick girl. I journal my successes. Yet what did I concentrate more on when I returned to bed? That I can't do more, thus perpetuating the cycle of sadness. I need to shift my concentration onto the successes. Also, I realized that it's ok if I do only so much and go to my safe zone. Do what I want and can do based on my emotional and physical status. Yesterday I didn't want to leave my apartment or bed to go food shopping. I just wanted the security and comfort of my bed and my apartment. I was good with this and didn't leave. This morning I wanted to go shopping, so I did. I don't like feeling sad, confused, etc. It's ok, though, and natural to feel this way after what I've been through. But I need to remember what these natural feelings are caused by: trauma. I never denied the trauma of the past four years of health hell. I am just now getting a better handle on it and its recovery.

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes @the10thleper319 you are doing great.

I think a lot of trauma or it's consequences increase when there is no way to put the brakes on and deal with the reality of it. Though dealing with it is painful at least it gives an opportunity for something better. Actually a happier life too, hopefully.

Hey here are hugs, I didn't forget.

 

[the10thleper319]

Yes @the10thleper319 you are doing great.

I think a lot of trauma or it's consequences increase when there is no way to put the brakes on and deal with the reality of it. Though dealing with it is painful at least it gives an opportunity for something better. Actually a happier life too, hopefully.

Hey here are hugs, I didn't forget.

Thanks for the words and hugs.

 

[the10thleper319]

My therapist gave me the recording of the treatment modality session we did yesterday plus two separate modalities to work with. Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is a structured program of psychotherapy with a strong educational component designed to provide skills for managing intense emotions, and acknowledges the need for change in a context of acceptance of situations and recognizes the constant flux of feelings—many of them contradictory—without having to get caught up in them. I started researching and began practicing it yesterday. The other modality is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) which is a mindfully oriented behavioral therapy that uses an eclectic and humanistic approach to help people accept and move on from negative experiences. Unlike other modes of psychology that primarily operate on the concept of healthy normality, ACT therapy accepts the so-called “abnormality” as part of the human psyche and lays more emphasis on change through acceptance. . She said to include positive self-talk. So now I have three treatment modalities!

 

[Tinyflame]

That is wonderful news @the10thleper319 !

 

[the10thleper319]

That is wonderful news @the10thleper319 !

Thank you! This morning I was on the rollercoaster of confusion, sadness, and panic. I used the audio treatment and it either eliminated or greatly reduced the negative emotions. I am on quest to know why I get anxious/panicky before, during, and after simple activities like going downstairs to get the mail or preparing and having lunch.

HOW ARE YOU DOING?

 

[Tinyflame]

HOW ARE YOU DOING?

That is so sweet to ask, rarely anyone asks me, especially actually meaning it lol. I was trying to answer, I'm not sure what to say? I am too much in my head.

HUGS TO YOU!