Facebook Depresses Me - Facebook Blues

[Tanishq]

Well It's said the less friends you have, the solid strong bond you can have. You will be able to pay more attention as you wish and as your friends wished to be. I think most people on facebook try to live life like diva style who is on some stage and trying to win us with their artistry.

 

[Mcll]

Yes, there are quite a few Scarlet O'Hara's on FB, but it's easy to ignore them. You do the exact opposite of wasting your heartbeats obsessing over and analyzing them.

 

[lisamarie]

It depresses me on occasion -- like when I see people getting married and having babies, as my boyfriend is incarcerated. But more than that I do get a lot of enjoyment out of it. Would never delete it, LOL.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Facebook truly does give a person a feeling of having their time in the spotlight. People collect friends because the higher the number, the better. Yes, I have 250+ "friends" but none of them are real life friends. They are all past schoolmates, colleagues, and family members. (Ok, did/will again if I re-activate)

Many there just want attention. I don't. Never have, never will. One of my last wall postings was a line by Ben Harper that said something like I can't afford to give what you easily throw away. It perfectly summed up how I feel about the whole thing.

I think there's a fallacy in that Facebook is social. Well, yes and no. I know things about certain people that mybest friends and I would never share with each other. Is this really socializing? I have my doubts.

 

[Tanishq]

It depresses me on occasion -- like when I see people getting married and having babies, as my boyfriend is incarcerated. But more than that I do get a lot of enjoyment out of it. Would never delete it, LOL.

It's opposite for me. When I see someone getting married, instantly I would be in lalala land and much excited to produce kids and have wife. :D

 

[Tanishq]

Many there just want attention. I don't. Never have, never will. One of my last wall postings was a line by Ben Harper that said something like I can't afford to give what you easily throw away. It perfectly summed up how I feel about the whole thing.

I think there's a fallacy in that Facebook is social. Well, yes and no. I know things about certain people that mybest friends and I would never share with each other. Is this really socializing? I have my doubts.

It can't be better explaination than this post. Thank you Scaredoflonely. That's empowering thought from you.

I wanted healthy attention there and received a PM from friend and whatever she wrote it looked she has not understand me what I have been wanting from her. I wondered once why she was liking others wall and not just mine. Today I have my answer, madam was intentionally avoiding me. I am glad to know where I stand in that friendship.

 

[Emilie]

I've been on and off it for the past few years but I ultimately decided to completely remove myself from it and anything like it. Glad I read this- I needed to hear that I'm not alone.

 

[Marie10]

I've also had a hard time with FaceBook.

1) I compare myself to others.

2) I've had 2 people contact my mother.
One of these "friends" who I used to know but accepted her request anyway, was unaware of my personal issues (PTSD, eating problems) she told my mom I was a drug addict and etc.. Long story short it was horrible. The other person tried convincing my mom I should move to Las Vegas- and that's another story.

I'm sure I can think of more but am tired.

I've deleted and blocked some people and am hardly on there anymore. I may delete my account as well.

 

[Philippa]

I only keep current friends on there. I've deleted most of the people I went to school with, bar one or two, and all my relatives.:D

My brother attacked me there one day after I challenged him on a thread he started. I wasn't being negative, just pointing out some integral information about the topic, and he just lost it and started telling me I was 'one f*cked up bitch" and how could I dare think that dad might be a pedophile, and blah blah blah...I deleted him without hesitation, and then he started texting me to continue the rant and call me petty for deleting him!

Some people are just unbelievable.

Most of the people I have on there I really enjoy communicating with, and if I haven't heard from someone in a while, or they never contact me or interact with me, than I will delete them. If they piss me off even the slightest by being condescending or such, I delete them.

 

[Tanishq]

I think people are lessening socializing and meet people in person because of facebook, do you all think so? Thank god, there are still some people who prefer to meet in person at some social places.

 

[Shellbell]

Yes I agree Jaret, social networking is lessoning people's desire to connect in a real way.

I have definitely realised just through recently shutting down my own facebook, and meeting a new friend in the last week - that there is nothing close to having real relationships - where you interact face to face and can talk and help each other in a real way.

There are good things about facebook and it definitely has it's uses, but it should never completely replace real relationships and real socializing IMO.

People are designed to connect, not via a social network - but a real human connection, where you bond with the person.

 

[Tanishq]

Shellbell, I am aware fully that it is very important to meet people in real life. Sometimes I forget this. Thank you for this powerful thoughts. I needed to hear them. :)