Fear: Accept It Or Fight It?

[watundah]

Hey, I like that - I will try to keep that in mind (False Evidence Appearing Real) because in most case it is sooo true. Paralyzed by my own mind. Eeesh.

 

[Teasel]

Fear, accept or fight? Maybe both? Like the occasional time when I can look honestly at how I am feeling when I'm afraid, without the tabloid like dramatic catastrophising, melts the fear away. Where as my usual reaction of running the eff away from my feelings, seems only to increase fear..

 

[watundah]

Great session today so hoping this may help others. Today I piped in, "you never know when people are going to change." Bingo. Child of alcoholic parents is still carrying that unpredictability and fear of not knowing what's next. I still fear people who I trust will turn on me.

In truth, I surround myself with a pretty safe group (I have a very strict acceptance program) and do not harbor physical fears. I am more afraid of emotional and psychic hurt. So my task is to uncouple pain/hurt from people/relationship. I need.to pause and consider, as an adult, do I need to be afraid of this person mocking, bullying or belittling me? Highly unlikely. My parents are dead and if I do run into any idiots, I sure have the tools to handle them now - as in disengage and remove them from my life. Looking forward to further work on this "uncoupling". Watching my reactions and feelings when Im around others in between sessions.

 

[Panda Bear]

Embracing fear as a part of our lives, allows us to grow through it and become something worthy of great connection. This great connection that comes for learning how to move through our fear, brings the best thing of all.

LOVE.