FEAR

[pink318]

I am feeling fear tonight. I stood up to my husband that threw a fit. All day I asked him to help me clean this big house and he avoided. Tonight he wanted to know what was wrong and I avoided talking about it. Finally he turned off the tv and became insistent. So I told him. Then he made all kind of excuses and got verbally aggressive. He said we just cleaned a few weeks ago, yelling at me, and that I had such unreasonable expectations. He stood over me yelling and it was very intimidating. Finally I just got up and went to bed, but he followed me in my room trying to argue. I was shut down. Then he came in a few minutes later and said he cancelled his sport date tomorrow and would help me, but I don't want him to now...I just don't care anymore. He says Im being difficult now because I don't want anything from him. Then he tries to start an argument and I have to turn my back for him to go away. I feel crazy right now.

Hi Brat17,
I’m very sorry this is happening to your marriage. Glad you found this forum. I hope you will be encouraged and this group can help you to feel relieved.

I pray that things will be well in your marriage and household. Please stay strong. I’m sorry about the pain you are going through, please know that we are here for you. You are in my prayers. God bless.

 

[Freida]

If you are low income the advocates may have resources to lawyers who will do it pro bono.... ???

 

[Fadeaway]

Sending hugs your way

 

[mamachick]

Thank you for the hugs Fadeaway.
I am low income but they do not have anyone to do it pro bono. Legal aid will help if the person is totally incompetent intellectually to file the papers on their own and represent themselves. Its not really a good option at my age and with my health.

My symptoms carry on long after any real threat is over. Actually it is even worse. I have found myself dissociating and 3 days have passed. Its as though it isn't even about this event. I ate a little on sunday and got very sick. I have been nauseated with this and haven't been able to eat mon. or tuesday. I haven't showered or dressed since. I have to go somewhere tomorrow and don't feel like I can do it. I don't know what is wrong with me. I also lost my 12 yr old dog just 2 weeks ago. I just feel my brain is so fuzzy right now. I have had mild panic attacks since this argument (heart racing) but have been able to manage with breathing and distractions. Its like all the negative words that I have been told about myself through life are flooding my brain-not just his.