Feeling Disconnected: Why Does Writing Not Help?

[chihayafuru]

Explaining but not processing. I seem to often write about things and don't really feel anything so I think it's processed but then later I'll think about it and feel really upset. It's like part of my brain wants to process so I think about things and write about it but then part of my brain won't process it and I don't understand why this happens?

 

[chihayafuru]

@Charbella I've read a lot of articles about trauma. I have a hobby of learning Japanese and I draw sometimes. If I'm not ready why do I get assault nightmares?
I asked Dr catalyst about doing the writing with the binaural and no emotions happening and it said that it seemed like dissociating and detaching from my emotions.
But I'm not meaning to do it.
It doesn't feel like I'm dissociating like I'm still in my body, my surroundings look normal.

 

[Sideways]

no emotions happening

Emotions are happening - perhaps not the way you’re anticipating, but they are happening. For example:

I get angry with myself cause I feel like what happened shouldn't matter and I shouldn't even be thinking about it

You do seem to be looking for a quick and easy DIY solution to ptsd.

If someone asked for a quick easy DIY solution to having Covid, or a brain tumour, you’d probably be comfortable with the idea that actually, complicated illnesses like that don’t really lend themselves to quick easy DIY solutions.

It kind of baffles me when folks seem to assume that they should be able to just get a few tips online and sort it all out for themselves. When, even with the help of medication and trained professionals, it can be a lengthy process. Like, a decades long process.

 

[chihayafuru]

i tried writing about what i remember whilst listening to the bilateral music and i felt a bit anxious and a bit sick and then i felt better and went to write on here and felt sick again so waited a little like a couple minutes. feeling a little unsettled.
i just got pain in my ear for about 7 seconds, don't know if that's connected to the process or not.

 

[caroline_13]

I think quite a lot of people start their recovery journey thinking that trauma recovery is all about talking about our traumatic experience.

Actually, a lot of recovery work isn’t about that at all. But when we are processing specific traumatic memories, we’re trying to change the way that our brain has stored those memories.

That’s where trauma therapists come in - they’re trained in how to do that. It’s not just about talking it through, it’s talking about it in a specific way, to change the way our brain is storing the information.

Simply going over and over traumatic memories can actually be retraumatising.

So spot on.

 

[TinyTrixie]

the writing DOES work. it just takes time. writing it out helps me focus the issues so that i can process them in a more cohesive manner. without the focus, i'm just wading through cesspools and/or randomly stuffing emotions.

be gentle with yourself and patient with the process.

Ive come across thia and that little bit of encouragement has helped.
I've always been told to try writing but I've never seem to get in with it.
Thank you