Getting Birthdays Mixed

[ryanc]

I was in a very bad motorcycle accident and caused another person substiantal pain and suffering to this day. I have for some reason mixed this person's birth year with my own. I actually get into arguements with people on the year I was born. The birth year I have for some reason taken is the person that I hurt in the accident. How rare is this or have ou ever heard of this?

 

[Nishkaa]

Hi Ryanc,

I'm not really sure what to make of this curious birthday mix-up? It's interesting though.

I'm very sorry you were in a bad motorcycle accident and that another person got very hurt. That's kind of what I'd call, a 'double-whammy' trauma, you being hurt as well as feeling hurt about the other person's injuries.

How long ago was the accident? Are you okay right now? Are you seeing a therapist?

I won't ask you too many questions about the accident because I know that can be really hard to deal with. Only share what you feel safe sharing about.

It may be hard to see right now, but accidents are just those, they're accidents. I don't think you meant to hurt this other person, regardless of whatever was going on for you at the time and the time of the accident.

One of the things that might be hard, is sometimes after an experience as you have described, there are still lingering and painful feelings of what can be called "survivor-guilt"-- they're trauma-connected feelings. They may not be rational feelings, but they can still stick with us, even though it wasn't our fault, or just simply because mistakes were made. Accidents, like a motorcycle accident, they happen so quickly, so little time to respond.

I'm glad you found us here. This can be a safe place to talk about difficult stuff when you need to.

Take Care,
~N

 

[Nishkaa]

I was in a very bad motorcycle accident and caused another person substiantal pain and suffering to this day. I have for some reason mixed this person's birth year with my own. I actually get into arguements with people on the year I was born. The birth year I have for some reason taken is the person that I hurt in the accident. How rare is this or have ou ever heard of this?

Hi ryanc,

I'm not sure if I understood correctly, I apologize if this is the case.

By the birth year-- do you mean the year the accident happened? Or do you mean the person's birth year, the year that person was born?