Given Warning In Work

[wannagetoverpast]

Been in company 6 weeks and given warning for being too quiet/ not learning fast enough although I have had no training!!

Feel like a failure and that i am not good enough. Paranoid in work that everyone thinks I am useless. Paranoid that people have been gossiping about me.

I am so worried I will lose my job that I cant think straight in work. I am struggling making decisions in case they are wrong. Also too scared to ask for help in case they are stupid questions- and scared for looking stupid. Scared to ask questions in case I am gossiped about so I just freeze in work.

Putting even more pressure on myself- scared I will lose my job and end up homeless.


I have lost so much confidence and sleep- in a vicious circle now.

Maybe my parents were right I am useless and unloveable.

 

[whiteraven]

Ok, so first of all I'm really sorry you are feeling so worried about your new job. I am a trainer with a company and I know how scary it can be for new employees. I also know that a lot of times there can be a whole bunch of miscommunication on all levels between management and staff and new and more senior staff, so I'm wondering if you can talk a little more about your situation and what happened?

When you said they gave you a warning for being too quiet, does that mean you aren't asking enough questions?

Also, what kind of work do you do, generally? You said you didn't get any training? Does that mean your training is primarily on-the-job? Just asking to get a better understanding, so maybe I can help you figure out how to approach this with your managers.

 

[Freedomfighter]

When you are being told you dont learn fast enough you can start keeping track of your own acomplisments, that will help you to gain confidence. It will show that you are learning and once you can rely on your own progress reports you take their power over you away. When someone accuses you of not grasping one subject pick a subject that is better suited to your talents, that you can do better in. It is very tough for an employer to argue against that, pulls the rug out under their feet. You will be surprised how much better you feel when you know their tricks and how you can become a better worker despite their negativities.

 

[Friday]

I am so worried I will lose my job that I cant think straight in work. I am struggling making decisions in case they are wrong. Also too scared to ask for help in case they are stupid questions- and scared for looking stupid. Scared to ask questions in case I am gossiped about so I just freeze in work.

New Been in company 6 weeks and given warning for being too quiet

So does the second part help? That they actually want you to ask questions & ask for help something you can use to combat the fear of doing so?