Going no contact with a family member that is a narcissist

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Are you taking Vitamin D3 too????? Helps with fighting off depression!!!!

Yes I am and I did run out last week and noticed a slight difference. But I am beginning to feel a little bit better now, thanks.

 

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I called my grandson earlier today and heard his voice for the first time in a year and now have my proof that he is getting my texts. I feel so much better. This gave me a great deal of hope at long last. I will not tell what I know to my grandson.

I believe taht in some small way I continue to make a difference in his life. The relief in knowing the truth is incredible. I know it ain't much but it does help me so very much. I heard his voice on his voicemail. He has not blocked me, he is not able to respong but he can recieve them. He has not blocked me either. I will not make a big deal of this but at least I finally have some real proof.

 

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@She Cat I have some anonymous person harrassing me and following me around on my threads I am locking this one because of this reason:hug:

 

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I am doing very well lately. I seem to have stabalized somewhat and my feelings are not up and down and sideways lately. I am functioning a lot better lately and developing a new routine for myself each day and will gradually incorporate more things to do each day in phases. I just added reading a bit each day and I am not there yet but I know that I will improve.

It is still very hard not hearing from them. I try not to focus on my feelings about that. It seems to be helping a lot so I know I am on the right track.

 

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@Rain Shifting the focus from “them” to you is a more healthy way to go. Hard to get there but so needed.

 

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I am doing very well lately. I seem to have stabalized somewhat and my feelings are not up and down and sideways lately.

So glad to hear this @Rain !!!

 

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Hard to get there but so needed.

I know, it will take some time for me to be able to actually do this. I agree with you, thank you.:hug:

glad to hear this @Rain !!!

Thank you so much, Congruency. Much appreciation to you. I am glad too. I have waited a very long time to get here.:hug:

 

[TruthSeeker]

I am a month into no contact and I had a smear campaign against me with false accusations on facebook. i j...

I have had to distance myself from my crazy whacko family in order to move in a more healthy direction.
Here is what I had to do to reclaim my sanity.
Control aspects of the relationship which are going to make life more predictable....I was working with narcissists....and for every move...a countermove to mess up my day and keep me looping at night and awake. So I got a PO box-mail gets picked up less often and no surprises in the mail box outside anymore; they got a separate e-mail from my real friends..I control when I see their triggering mail of any kind, I got a landline that is on an answering machine, and is no longer in my bedroom to wake me up so they can leave a message....which has stopped, they didn't get cell phone access...only friends,and I determine the contact schedule which is awesome....predictable....and they are not welcome at the house. I don't tell where I come and go, or disclose my schedule to just anyone. I don't discuss my health or the fun things I'm doing with just anyone. For all intense purposes, I have to view them as acquaintances..... and we don't trust acquaintances.