General Having Trouble With Understanding

[jenaew]

I have come to find that in trying to create some support system for myself when times get hard with my sufferer (whether it be a shoulder to cry one, someone to vent to, etc.) most people just don't understand. They tell me I'm crazy for putting myself through these things. I have tried to use the cup method to explain to them, hoping that it would shed a little light on PTSD for them. But it still really doesn't help...I keep receiving comments like "You deserve to be treated like a princess" "this is abuse", etc. etc.

I know its hard for an outsider to understand it, but I'm never really getting any help...I'm not getting any positive feedback, just negative things that start to make me question things I otherwise wouldn't.

I didn't know if there was a thread for this already, so I apologize if there is, or if this is under the wrong catagory.

I just need someone who can understand my situation, or a better way to explain things to those close to me. I even had a friend go as far as to say he doesn't "believe in PTSD". It just makes me realize how hard it must be for sufferers to find compassion and to be taken seriously.

 

[Nicolette]

Jenaew I just replied in your diary. I will say this to you. Nothing about PTSD is an excuse for you to be abused and if you are hearing you are being "abused" you need to sit up and listen. PTSD management is David's responsibility as is the way he treats you.

Don't be blind to what others are seeing..........sounds to me like you should be questioning the relationship instead of making excuses for it. You are only 18 and have your whole life to lead.

I am sorry but I agree with your friends on this one based on all your posts I have read so far. Don't use PTSD as an excuse. Compassion for the illness has nothing to do with how you are being treated. You have a lot to learn and right now you need to stop using PTSD as an excuse for what sounds to me as an unhealthy relationship while working on your self esteem.

Blunt, yes, cruel, no..... you may not like what I have just posted but I am giving you my honest opinion based on what you have written.