Relationship He Just Said He Wants To See Me Again

[Glara]

I answered him that when he said he feels like he's dying that I'm always here. He answered by asking if I'm coming down again, he'd like to see me. I'm happy, but I'm a little concerned. I'm afraid he might want to say goodbye.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I know you've had a lot of ups and downs with your sufferer. I somehow doubt that he wants to see you in order to just say goodbye. I think that its a positive thing that he says he wants to see you. I just don't want you to get your heart broken, as it has been very up and down with him in the past.

 

[Wastinglight]

Hi Glara. I am glad that you are feeling happier, but I admit that I too am worried that this is the start of another tumultuous rollercoaster ride for you, which might end up causing you more pain.

Perhap it might be worth clarifying with him what he now considers the nature of his relationship with you to be, and what his intentions toward you are, to make sure you are both on the same page, and you can manage your expectations accordingly.

Hugs if you need them.

 

[Glara]

I know and if I do see him I will ask him that. I've thought a lot about that. Not having much contact over the past few months has helped me focus on myself more and detach from him a bit. I just said in another post that ill never shut him out (unless I believe he's being malicious), I've cared about him for over 30 years.

When we rekindled our romance he said a lot of things about a future but left out the PTSD. That's what made it so hard on me, I couldn't understand. And even with reading about it, it's not the same as when it happens. That's when it hits you like a ton of bricks. I think if I see him again this time my head will be in a better place. I've never been one to.be ruled by emotion, but this PTSD contradicts what normal reactions to emotions are.

Anyway, what I plan to ask is what he'd like us to be and what is he thinks is realistic for us to be. Then I'll have to decide what I can handle. When we were young it was on and off again, I assumed due to distance and I was ok with that. We didn't talk about a future back then and I just did my own thing, dated other people etc. This time he talked a lot about a future. My guess at this point would be that he'd like to be in a real relationship with me but just can't.

I'm not going to ask him that just yet, I'll wait and see if he texts and talks to me more. I don't want to make him feel pressure if he's starting to come out of a depression. As for a fear of him saying goodbye, I don't mean like breaking it off goodbye, I meant a suicidal goodbye. I'm still not sure what his mental status is as far as that goes and I'm still very worried about it.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Above all else @Glara, take care of you. No matter what. You're so kind hearted, it's easy for you to put him first above yourself. (((Hugs)))