Hi, My Name Is Sol And I'm A Commitophobe.

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Here, here. I'm 30 and have very similar issues. My habit is to get involved, then subconsciously screw it up by either coming on too strong or not showing any interest. I have a fear of failure, doing the wrong thing, not being myself, not being what they want, etc.

Best of luck to us both as we work through this and get to a point where the right someone comes along & makes sense.