Relationship Hope Its Ok To Get Things Off My Chest

[G86]

Hi guys, thank you all so so much for the responses. It really helps knowing I'm not alone and I'm not being silly.

Yes he knows it has happened on one occasion, he took it so badly I haven't told him about the rest, maybe I should.
He is really a wonderful man, he adores me and he adores my son. What I described in my first post is not how he is all of the time, I feel it's important for you all to know that.
Before I met him he was a robot, his mum has cried to me on many occasions because she is so thankful that "he smiles now" so I know that I am making some progress with him. I also know that it will be a slow process and that until he admits to himself that he is not 'weak' that he does have problems, there is only so much progress we can make. I am more than willing to put in the work, so much so that when my degree is finished I will be a practising PTSD therapist. (he is not the only reason for this)

He has not formally been diagnosed but considering what he has been through, my personal and educational research, I would hazard an educated guess that he is suffering from PTSD.

I know how to handle him better than a lot of people and I have already decided how to approch my feelings with him without sounding like I am blaming him for them, it's just finding the right moment.

I'm so so happy that I found this group and what seems to be such a great support network.

 

[Gadgie]

Quote ........"Im so so happy that I found this group and what seems to be such a great support network."

Yes, it's been a great help to me as well, in fact being in here as helped me a lot more than the therapy I had a few years ago.

I've been told that I'm back on the list for therapy again, but I'm afraid they might "drop me" like they did last time?

 

[G86]

Quote ........"Im so so happy that I found this group and what seems to be such a great support network."...

When you say they dropped you how do you mean?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Perhaps he would be more willing to see he is in need of some help if he knows he has hurt you in his sleep multiple times? It's always so touchy with how quickly some sufferers tend to turn to self loathing though... but maybe there's a way you can bring it up emphasizing you know it's not him hurting you on purpose, rather some symptoms of untreated PTSD.

 

[Gadgie]

Quote......."When you say they dropped you how do you mean?"

The therapist was told by her boss to cut down he case load of patients, and they said "I had too many issues, going back for so many years, and wasn't responding quick enough"

So I was dropped, and that was about six years ago.

 

[G86]

Quote......."When you say they dropped you how do you mean?"

The therapist was told by her boss to cut d...

That's awful. I wish I was already qualified as I would happily put the time in. Not every therapist is the same though, hopefully the next one is more committed. How long is the wait usually?

 

[Gadgie]

Well, the mast time, it was two years! Funnily enough, I was at the surgery today getting my kidney drain dressing checked, and while I was waiting, I met the therapist I used to see.

She came over for a quick chat, but knew nothing about me coming on her list again?

To tell the truth, I've gone past caring now, as with the help and support I get on here, and the fact that I'm getting used to living alone, I think I can get by, after all, how much worse can it get?

 

[Milo's papa]

Thank you, I try to be!
Assaulting me is not a conscious thing so I usually try to fall asleep after cuddlin...

G86, I'm going to hazard a guess that your husband is a combat Vet. You really need to be careful with night terrors. When I was younger I spent the night with some relatives and was bunked down in my uncles room. I woke up in the middle of the night to him pointing his M1 military rifle with fixed bayonet at my throat. If his mother had not walked past the room at just the right time, I would have died that night.

Night terrors and PTSD nightmares can be very hazardous to your health. PLEASE take care.