I agree. Actions speak louder than words, and it is through observing my therapist's reactions, experiencing how he deals with my disclosures and my non-disclosures and all of my emotional reactions and experiences, that slowly builds the bridge of trust. It's not something I set out to do consciously, other than in very rare situations, and it's not something I am even consciously aware of analysing or interpreting a lot of the time.
But when I begin to feel comfortable that his reactions will be consistent, appropriate, reliable and validating, I begin to realise that there are grounds to share more, and to trust more deeply.
In general, I don't think we "build" trust. I think it is "built" in the evolving context of the relationship, and the only road there is as long as it takes.
Maddog
But when I begin to feel comfortable that his reactions will be consistent, appropriate, reliable and validating, I begin to realise that there are grounds to share more, and to trust more deeply.
In general, I don't think we "build" trust. I think it is "built" in the evolving context of the relationship, and the only road there is as long as it takes.
Maddog
