General How Hard Is Too Hard To Push???

[Concerned]

My husband has had a rough time since Sunday - he was drinking Sunday and left home to go an hour away to "get some air" - he wanted to be alone and I respected his wishes but last night he got very intoxicated again, was alone and was in a BAD way - - he is supposed to have a counseling appointment today at 5 p.m. - where he would have his second EMDR treatement - while he is not cancelling the appointment he is doing by phone which takes away the opportunity for EMDR. His drinking is counter-productive, being alone an hour away and drinking is not good for him emotionally (not to mention concerning for myself and his family) and avoiding treatment now . . . I want to talk to him in a gentle loving way about his need to resist the alcohol and re-commit to the treatment - I just don't know if that will be counter-productive as well or if there is a productive way - I know he is struggling and can only imagine how difficult the EMDR is to face the traumas but the alternative - no treatment and self-medication with alcohol is also causing him pain! What do I do????

 

[discarded]

I can't say that I can offer any advice on this one. I pushed too much on others advice and my own wish for my husband to get better. It didn't end well. But what alternative do we have? I wish you luck on this one.

 

[Concerned]

Thank you discarded - - -hoping to find the right mix of support and "pushing" . . . time will tell . . . so scary!