General How long? Is it normal to be in a triggered state for months?

throwaway13

Learning
I hope you have a lawyer.
Yup the lawyer says she’s never seen anything like this. Didn’t file for divorce or child support. She’s been isolated at her mothers house for a few months. She petitioned for full custody. Didn’t serve me papers until the last day she could. Her petition was insane claiming all kinds of horrible things making serious allegations that are not true. Lawyer couldn’t believe she didn’t file for an order of protection along with the petition.

First thing she tells the family court judge is that she retracts her petition and we’re back to the same place we are in now. She’s acting extremely erratic
 

Friday

Moderator
Posted on here this summer when wife had her ptsd triggered. Seems like after months her symptoms are quieting down. Is it normal to be in a triggered state for months?
I’ve never really known anyone to be triggered for anything but very brief periods of time. Seconds. Minutes. Hours.

Symptomatic, on the other hand? Whilst there’s the occasional brief spike that can last days, it’s far more common for it to last for weeks/ months/ years.
 
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throwaway13

Learning
I’ve never really known anyone to be triggered for anything but very brief periods of time. Seconds. Minutes. Hours.

Symptomatic, on the other hand? Whilst there’s the occasional brief spike that can last days, it’s far more common for it to last for weeks/ months/ years.
I’m still learning the terms associated with ptsd. She has been symptomatic for a few months
 

Mee

MyPTSD Pro
I think my first two years I was pretty untenable because of how symptomatic I was. I’d have to ask DH - but I know for about two and a half years I only left the house , often only our room, once or twice a week - for therapy or yoga.

I don’t know when it ramped down from being constant , but it certainly got worse before getting better , then I have dips into more symptomatic behaviour. I don’t spend months on end totally ‘triggered’ but I do spend vast tracks of each day disassociated and have remained somewhat avoidant .

I think there is no
Normal. How far we drop might be settled enabled but circumstances ( I often think had I had a child I might have had to not plummeted as low as I did and be stuck ‘only’ in the sort of zoned out and anxious state I now am ? I can’t say of course- maybe my trauma might have manifested differently as a.different mental health condition.

All you have really is the circumstances you are presented with and your own boundaries of tolerance.

as for talking to , everyone is different- I did and would and do with my DH - sometimes it helps me and us - other times it can leave me feeling vulnerable and self hating- but it’s fair I know where he is and we communicate over how we are coping! It’s possible then to set aims together and see if there are ways we can help each other - eg i need to listen to DH’s woes too , but it helps me be a better listener and wife if they aren’t the first thing I hear in the morning- give me half an hour and let me have a cup of tea- because I’m no longer the early morning ray of sunshine I was .
 
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