How Much Do You Tell Your Therapist About Day To Day Events?

[Tinyflame]

Dear @rightkindofme , I can't see you as any witch, you'd have to be a Good Witch then. ;) :hug:

I agree with @HelenB 's response of not going too deep, but I always seem to 'fall in to it'. Yet it has brought about understanding and I suppose that is progress.

Dear @BloomInWinter , how do you 'just experience the feelings'? I get overwhelmed despite employing what I know to not do so. Like @stenni described, maybe that's why things end up seeming 'not that important or relevant'? There is no sense of acknowledging it and therefore no context or pattern for me as it's role or connection to the Big Picture of all the trauma. (Though -perhaps what should be obvious but is also 'overlooked' by myself- I think I could truthfully say if it weren't for the past I wouldn't be dealing with SI in the present.) I don't know if this resonates with @stenni .(Thank you! :hug: )

Hope you are feeling a wee bit better stenni. :hug:

 

[billie]

My T says that the present is just as important as the past because she cannot allow me to deal with traumas whilst I'm not ready to. I tell my T everything, yeah it does take longer but her method makes sense to me. Hope that helps.

 

[Sandstone]

Thanks to all of you who have replied. I'm sorry I vanished, but as ever I was overcome by sheer terror and the conviction that everything I post here is unutterably STUPID. I'm so sick of not being able to put together a logical and coherent train of thought.

When you overdosed, that lack of control (the inability to keep yourself safe) reflects on past harm

I think the idea in my mind was that while I was asleep I couldn't be doing anything dangerous

I wonder if that is part of what adds to the minimising of this for you. Your team wasn't hospitalising you for way more and over many incidents so it would make sense that you too have started to think of these things as nothing.

There may be some truth in this, I certainly think of a lot of my day to day inadequacy as "making a fuss", and still can't get why I can't just get my act together. If I saw this behaviour in my daughter I would want to help, but I'd think that ultimately it was her job to deal with it. But I can't imagine either of them being like this, they are better people than that.

a main goal of my therapy is to make me feel better and be more functional in the present

I've concluded that feeling better is a vain hope - I'm just going for being able to function at an acceptable level without falling apart or hiding. I'm not even aiming to get back to where I was four years ago. I accept that I'll probably never be able to manage a social life again, and will have to work at a much lower level and possibly only part time.

I'm convinced that the way ahead is is to deal with the stuff from the past. I'm so frustrated that I'm 6 months in and am barely doing that.
Although, to be fair, this week my therapist asked me to list off the key traumas, just by a name label. I got to four things, and was confused because I knew thee should be 5. Tried to run through the list again and could only get to 3. Now, alone I can recall all five.