General How Much More Is There To Come.

[amethist]

Hubby was doing well after hearing about is friend dying the other day, then today he finds out that his dads Prostate cancer is back and they cannot operate.

They are giving him some kind of injection and then he is having radio therapy to try and reduce and control it.

I had gone out for the day with our granddaughter and my youngest daughter, so hubby decided to go and see his dad, this is when he found out.

Tonight he is in a state of shock, numbness and wondering what the hell is going to hit him next.

On a good note we are going away for a weekend soon to another friends caravan by the sea.

 

[^^FlyingSolo^^]

This is the same question I ask myself all the time. :rolleyes:

But luckily you guys have something to look forward to. The upcoming trip sounds wonderful. Maybe that trip will help ease & sooth the mourning and suffering he's going through. Hope, hope, hope.

Best wishes for you both,

Solo

 

[Tinyflame]

Oh amethist I'm sorry, it feels like 'what next'. :(

I can only say from having been in those times, try to recall what is right and who isn't sick, reach out for support, and know that despite these terribly sad things it can help your Hubby to not take you or the time you have together (or with his dad) for granted, when he gets through some of this grief.

(((Hugs))) that it all goes well, peace and strength and security and presence of mind to you both, in the meantime.
xox

 

[Mary Burgess]

(((((((Huge Hugs))))) Amethist for you and your family; I will say some very special prayers to All That Is for all of you
Mary

 

[intothelight]

Amethist,

I have no words to express my sorrow at all of the trials that your husband is facing right now. Unfortunately there is no control over what life throws our way. I don't know how much you much he reads what is written here by other sufferers, but even with PTSD you can cope with the shocks and go on. Sometimes there is even healing in the trials.

In six days my daughter is having her brain tumor removed for a second time. Each day I get up and battle PTSD and cancer. I've had my father die suddenly, watch my children go through the horrors of a trial, and have to find a way to take care of a mother that did nothing but hurt me for most of my life. But somewhere amidst the fear, pain, loss, and suffering, I have learned what is important.

The most important thing is the day that you have and the people that you love. It is in the relationships and the moment that life happens. It is here that you find happiness, joy, hope, acceptance and peace. No one can change the past, and no one knows what tomorrow will bring; but his life is full of people who love him and he is very blessed.

I don't know if this will help or not. But the past robs us of our present, and the anxiety can make the future appear overwhelming and at times terrifying. It is living in the moment that I am learning to find my peace. It is in my children's faces, the touch of my husband's hand, the wet kisses of a puppy, the sun on my face, the sparkle of the water, the clouds as they pass across the sky, a conversation with a friend, a good meal, etc.

PTSD robs us of our lives, and that is what I have learned. I am stopping the thief and taking back my life, moment by moment. It took knowing that I was dying to make me want to start really living. I hope that your husband can learn that in a less drastic way and take the trials and turn them into an opportunity. It's all too short and too precious to allow this disorder to take away any more. Focus on the moment, and live life moment by moment. Take what is really important and what really matters and hold it.

Sending you and your family many healing thoughts and prayers.

Deb

 

[Mary Burgess]

Intothelight, I am sending you this (((((((huge hug))))))))) and prayers also for your daughter and your family.

 

[amethist]

He/we will cope Deb.

Just me writing down my thoughts after the last week.

My stuff pales into in-significance when I read and remember what you and others are and have been through.

Hugs to you and your Daughter Deb.

 

[intothelight]

We are all going through the same thing. We all have this thing called PTSD that takes away our ability to live and enjoy life. For those that love us, they stand by and suffer by watching someone they love battle an insidious enemy that steals away the person that they love.

When bad things happen, regardless of what they are, it is scary for the sufferer and their family. There is that huge question of how they will handle it. What I want to share is there is hope and we can get better. After all, each one of us is a fighter and a survivor in our own right. We just need to remember that and take back what is ours. That is to be living our lives to the fullest measure that we can obtain.

 

[KP the nut]

(((Amethist and H))) I'm sorry words fail me, but you are in my thoughts.

 

[amethist]

This morning hubby seems to be in shock. He is cold and shaking.

He knows his dad is in his 80's and could live another 10 years, even with this, but he cannot yet bring himself to believe this is not the end for his dad.

Hopefully the next few days will change that, then there is the funeral of his friend to get through.

Some sunshine would help today, but all we have is persistent rain.

 

[KP the nut]

Some sunshine would help today, but all we have is persistent rain.

Yep, it is persisting down here as well.

Keep H warm and give him a hug from me.

 

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(((Amethis))) When it rains it pours, if it is not one thing, it is another. I am so sorry that you have to face and deal with this on top of your other losses. Hope you guys get through the funeral well.

I am sorry you have to face and deal with so much. I hope the getaway refreshes the both of you. This is too much. I hate going through times like this, because of the feelings that come up. It is hard to find some peace. Lighting a candle for you all. Hugs and prayers for you all.

I hope for good results. I really don't have the words to describe how I really feel for you and your family. Please keep us informed about what is going on ok? Take care of you. Hug your husband for me and have him hug you back. Sending you healing energy today.